Artificial intelligence tools are transforming the world.

These tools can serve as valuable allies in enhancing your social skills, advancing your personal growth, and achieving your ambitions—provided you understand their limitations.

So, when does AI excel, and when does it falter?

Let’s find out:

Can artificial intelligence help you win ‘the game of life’?

AI Results: Overview

I’ve been experimenting with AI tools to improve our offerings.

So far, I’ve used and evaluated it for:

Examples

Let’s review some real-life examples of AI’s capabilities:

🔎 1. Business Negotiation Response: OK

Question: How can I raise prices for old customers?
AI Response: Frame it as a business necessity

Some good general principles.
But it misses the opportunity to showcase value.

Instead, it showcases averageness:

• Blaming the increases on your costs 🟰 Justifying.
• Aligning prices with industry standards 📣🟰 You aren’t any better than everyone else

My answer provided a higher level of sophistication, showcasing honorable character, and value:

Lucio: Say that you withheld an increase for as long as possible <— Frames you as a giver
Frame the increase as driven by demand <— Uses the scarcity principle at its most powerful
Say most customers are already paying the new prices <— The ‘principle of fairness’, that most people (righteously) accept

And more techniques below that.
Just a different level, increasing conversion, appreciation, and value all at the same time.

🔎 2. Humorous responses for dating: great

On the positive, AI was fantastic in suggesting ‘humorous’ replies

Her: I’m with my girls right now <— I saw the opportunity for teasing
Me: LOL I like how call them ‘my girls’ :) <— Good one, highlighting her ‘boss power move’
Her: hahaa why <— Likes it. But at this point

After that though I couldn’t think on the fly on how to add to the tease with humor.
And AI suggested the perfect responses.

Beware, however—this doesn’t imply AI excels at dating.
It doesn’t equip you with high-power approaches that make women swoon and fall in love.

Even in this example, ChatGTP wouldn’t have advised to quit texting and invite her out.
But I knew that, and how to take it from there :).

But still, for this specific use case on humorous responses, it was fantastic.

And helpful for me, as I’ve never excelled at humor.

🔎 3. Relationship advice: average

It did slightly worse for dating and relationships:

Question: My ex asked me to babysit for longer, do I have the right to ask her what she’s to?
AI Response: Ask if there is flexibility, and offer alternatives (and a few more standard ideas)

In this case, it defaulted to the general principles of:

• Give her privacy and freedom, valid for avoiding social faux pas and preventing controlling behavior
• Find a middle ground, valid negotiation principles for resolving issues without antagonism

Valid principles… But somewhat more obvious.

Our asker knew already that a controlling approach wasn’t cool, and that he could ask for a middle ground.

AI’s advice is helpful lower EQ men and abusive types who over-seek control -but these wouldn’t ask or take advice anyway-.

But it fails at these levels:

• Average nice guy approaches, Advice for ‘good men’ who struggle to gain women’s devotion and maintain attraction over the long-term.

• Misses possible deeper issues such as jealousy from emotional attachment, and her levels of respect.

• Misses how to gather intel strategically, yet high-power. Without sub-communicating ‘nosiness’, fear, or a too strong desire for control that would (rightfully) raise her guard up.

• Misses frame control strategies in case she pushed back. That’s crucial to (re)gain respect

Why AI Falls Short

AI is great whenever:

• High-quality information is abundant
• Expertise is easily recognizable
• Consensus emerges
• General principles apply to most or all cases

While quantitative disciplines and codified data suit AI perfectly, social skills are less mechanistic.

In most social situations, nuance is key.
And specific situations call for general principles to be calibrated, or sometimes even overturned.

That’s where AI may struggle:

When AI Trips The Most

The majority floods data sets with average responses. If the top 1% doesn’t speak, AI provides average solutions. It’s the ‘garbage in, garbage out’ principle.

The characteristics of some disciplines and human endeavors intrinsically send down AI the wrong path.
They are:

• High discernment is required, like effective social strategies

• Many (averagely skilled) people create content, as it’s the case for dating and relationships

• Expertise is hard to assess. Without personal experience, AI relies on logic and ‘citations’. But one externally wrong argument can be perfectly internally logical. And as ‘Lying With Statistics‘ shows, sometimes the most deceitful source brings the most citations

• Experts may never share (or even purposefully confuse). As it’s the case for some Machiavellian approaches, where experts either use the wisdom themselves and keep quiet, or actively sidetrack others

• Scientific guidance struggles at the individual level. Despite many enlightening frameworks, social science studies can only cover a tiny portion of limitless real-life situations one can encounter
  • Exceptions abound

• Ethical considerations & ‘political correctness’ safeguards, some of which may even be fair, may obfuscate or hide the most effective responses

In these cases, AI can’t easily sidestep quantity and go for proven quality.

And when AI must fall back on quantity, the ‘wisdom of the crowds’ fails when the crowd has limited wisdom.
Or, to be more precise, the wisdom of the crowd is the wisdom of the average man.

I’ve noticed AI often reverts to bland, average advice like ‘share your concerns with him openly and assertively‘.
This is great when you’re dealing with quality people in cooperative relationships.
But it’s terrible strategy when competing at work or when dealing with manipulators

🔎 Example: How to Read People

I wrote this post on the ‘spur of the moment’ as an off-shoot from another article.

In a yet-to-be-plubished list of ‘best books on how to read people’ I was cautioning against AI recommendations.
After researching the “best books on reading people,” here’s what I found:

The AI results for ‘best books to read people’ provided ZERO books on reading personalities. Likely because it prioritized popularity, picking from unqualified sources

There wasn’t a SINGLE book I’d consider great for reading people.

Some of them weren’t even about reading people at all.
There is nothing in ‘Thinking Fast and Slow‘ about reading people.

It seems like AI picked from the list of popular psychology books, rather than great book on how to read people.

The proposed list in general is heavy on body language books.
That’s at least closer to the topic.

But body language reads people in the moment, mostly in transitory states. Instead, it’s far more useful to read people in their stable, long-term traits and dispositions.

For example, if you want to avoid toxic people as friends or wives, you don’t care whether they’re sitting confident. Instead, you want to read the red flags of a taker personality.

Where AI Nails It

AI probably works well for beginner-level guidance on high-level issues.

I haven’t tested it as extensively because it’s not part of our core teachings here.
But from what I’ve seen it works for questions such as:

• How to overcome social anxiety, since studies and proven approaches abound
• Conversation openers, since it’s hard to go wrong as long you deliver it well
• How to keep a conversation going when you run out of things to say, since countless guides online provide good enough advice on these topics

My issue with these is that the answer will stop at the basics.

And those basics aren’t very helpful to achieve life-relevant goals.

For example, your goal is not to ‘keep conversations alive’, but to make great friends, high-value connections, or get girlfriends.

‘Running out of things to say’ doesn’t even feature as a possible issue for me because ‘conversing’ is not a goal.
If I ‘run out of things to say’ it means I’m not interested enough.
The last thing I want is to keep conversing.

The question itself on ‘not running out of things to say’ comes from the wrong frame of mind.
Remember: high-value men don’t waste time with random chit-chat.
Read more here:

• Should beginners start with more advanced material?

But for a beginner, maybe, it can be a fair start.

SUMMARY

Human ingenuity is stunning.

The world hadn’t yet finished exploring and implementing all the breakthroughs of the Internet revolution, and we’re now already facing a new seismic change.

AI changed and will change the world in ways we can’t yet predict.
And it will only improve.

Yet, when it comes to human behavior and strategies, AI faces structural and substantial limitations that are challenging to overcome.

Up until now, that means that AI is delivering average advice and coaching.

For those aiming to surpass mediocrity and achieve top-10% status, respect, and attraction, the solution is Power University.