Are you looking for a scientific, reliable and FREE attachment style quiz?

You have come to the right place.

This attachment style quiz will give you an answer to what’s your attachment style like. At the end of it you will have a much better understanding about yourself and about your relationships.

Note:
The following attachment style quiz is an adaptation -and simplification- of the work of Fraley, Waller, Breannan. Based on the results it gets for my clients I find it to be highly reliable.

Attachment Style Quiz

Every time you agree with one of the statements, mark down the respective number (A, B or C).
Answer thinking about you feel towards relationships in general, and not just about your last one.

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Attachment Style Test Results

Tally the results.

• More A = Anxious attachment style
• More B = Secure attachment style
• More C = Avoidant attachment style

Anxious:

People with an anxious attachment style have great capacity for emotional intimacy and get attached strongly and quickly. Relationships take up a lot of their mental cycles and a lot of their energy.
They tend to be more temperamental, more sensitive to their partner moods and along with the positive feelings of intimacy they experience lots of negative emotions as well, including worrying their partner does not return their feelings.
They can often get carried away and say mean things that they will later regret. As a result, their relationships tend to be mercurial and with lots of up and downs and lots of arguments and make ups.
Anxious people will greatly benefit from a relationship with a secure partner because someone with a secure attachment style will take away many of the worries, anxieties and arguments.
Read more about anxious attachment.

Secure:

Secure people are the most calm and confident of them all.
They are comfortable with intimacy without being overly worried or jealous. They communicate effectively and they tend to keep an even keel without any major swings of moods or emotions.
Read more about secure attachment.

Avoidant:

Contrary to popular belief avoidants also have the same needs for emotional connections and intimacy, but their brains often shuts down or overturns those needs.
So they end up being torn between the willingness for closeness and the rejection of it. They also have a strong need for keeping their own space on top, which makes for uncomfortable intimacy in the relationship.
That’s why one of the questions was “you miss your partner but crave your space when you’re together for too long”.
Avoidants often put independence and autonomy before their intimate relationships and they don’t spend much time thinking about their relationships.
These are the “committaphobes” out there.
Read more about the avoidant attachment style and how to spot an avoidant.

What Determines Your Attachment Style

Your attachment style is measured on two different variables:

1. Level of comfort (or discomfort) with intimacy and closeness
2. Anxiety towards your relationship status and partner’s love

The two usually go together, but a low number of the population (4-5%) are both insecure about their partner’s availability and have high discomfort with intimacy.

Attachment Styles in Relationships

Often, for a number of reasons, avoidants end up with anxious.
These make for the fieriest of relationships with lots of fights and reconciliations and big emotional drama.
If you are an anxious, chances are you are more attracted to avoidants. You must overcome that tendency, because anxious and avoidants together make for very bad relationships.
I highly recommend you read this article to recognize the signs of impending danger:

• The hell of an anxious-avoidant relationship

Summary

With this free attachment style quiz you have learned what’s your attachment style.
If it’s the first time you approach this topic you probably learned a lot about your needs, wants and your past relationships. You now also know which type of partner is best for you.

If you’re interested in relationships and developing the best relationship you possibly can, check the guide below. It summarizes all the best research and studies to achieve the best possible relationship: