Module 3 - Career Strategies
Most information on becoming a true high-flyer career is standard plain vanilla advice . Not that it's not valid, but it's only half of the coin. This module will teach you the other half that nobody teaches.
- Self-Assessment: Where Do You Need to Improve Most?
- 1. Basics of Workplace Power
- 2. Proven Strategies for Career Success
- 3. Women Winning at Work: Learning to Play The Men’s Game
- 4. Women Winning at Work: The Mindsets (Part II)
- 5: High-Confidence Behavior at Work: The “Exec Skills” (Both Men & Women)
- 6. Strategic Self-Promotion For Career Advancement
- 7. Dealing With Bosses: Strategies & Techniques
- 8. The 11 Types of Political Players (& How to Deal With Them)
- Self Awareness Analysis Quiz: Do You Have a Problem With Power?
- 9. Sociopaths: Recognizing & Beating The Worst Political Animals
- 10. Workplace Power Moves: What They Are, How to Handle Them
- 11. A Guide for Female Leaders: Wielding Power & Remaining Feminine
- 12. Toxic Employees: Archetypes & Solutions (Guide for Managers)
- 13. Managers’ Guide: Where Leadership Meets Politics
- 14. Negotiation Power Tactics: The Manipulative Techniques You Must be Aware Of
- 15: The Enlightned Way of Business. Ideal Culture, for Ideal Teams
- 16. Political Landmines You Need to Know
- Bonus 1: Conflicts of Interest at Work
- Bonus 2: Meetings Power Dynamics
- Bonus 3: Workplace Warfare: What to Do When Someone Targets You
- Bonus 4: Dispatching Bad Bosses
- Resources: Self-Assessments & Tools
Module 4 - Dating & Seduction
I perused all the best dating books and courses, plus hundreds of psychology and evolutionary psycholody research, combined with years of personal experience. This module is probably the quickest way to truly learn how dating works.
- 1. The Sexual Marketplace: An Overview
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Game Is She Playing?
- 2. Sexual Market Value: The Traits Men & Women Want
- 3. What Influences Your SMV (& How You Can Use it To Your Advantage)
- 4. Dating Strategies for Men: What Truly Works (Science-Backed)
- 5. Dating Strategies for Men: Lover or Provider, Short or Long Term?
- 6. Dating Strategies for Women: What Truly Works (Science-Based)
- 7. Power Dynamics: From Hello to Babies, Power Dynamics of Seduction
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Dating Strategy is She Using?
- 8. Leadership & Dominance For Men (Part I)
- 9. Leadership & Dominance For Men (Part II)
- 10. Games Men Play & Why: Understanding Male Deception
- Quiz: How Would You Handle This Cockblocker?
- 11. Sex, Dating, Relationships & Power
- Quiz: Intra-Gender Warfare – When Women Fight Women
- Mating Intelligence: What Dating Strategy Is He Using?
- Bonus: The Mathematical Process to Pick the Best Partner
- Bonus: How to Handle Rejections (With Power)
- Bonus: Using Dating Apps’ AI to Find Good Dating Markets (& Partners)
Module 5 - Relationship Power Dynamics
Mainstream relationship advice forgets that male-female relationships mask inherent conflicts, while "Red Pill" advice focusing on conflict leads to poor relationships. This module fills the gap with information and advice to help you structure real-life working relationship based
- 1. Disclaimer: Avoid Engaging in Relationships’ Power Moves
- 2. Power in Relationships: The Full Dynamics (Made Simple)
- Social Awareness Quiz: Who’s Got Power in This Relationship?
- 3. The Five Keys to Relationship Control
- 4. Relationship Power: How Women Control Men (& What to Do About It)
- Mind Control Quiz: How Some Women Control The Most Dominant Men
- 5. Relationship Power: How Men Control Women (& What to Do About It)
- 6. Games Women Play & Power Moves (& How to Deal With Them)
- Which Control Technique Is She Using?
- 7. Relationship Trump Cards: Games of Chicken & Threats
- 8. Relationship Cure: How to End All Games
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz: Turning Arguments Into Love Fests
Module 7 - Bonuses
- World’s Lies: The Systemic Games People Play
- Social Finessing: Mini Case-Studies to Increase Your Power (Part I)
- Social Finessing: Practical Examples to Increase Your Influence (Part II)
- Social Finessing: Practical Examples to Increase Your Social Intelligence (Part III)
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #1
- Case Study: Johnny Depp
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #2
- Power & Vulnerability: When to Be Vulnerable & When to Avoid
- RSD Tyler: Domain Authority Failure
- Genders & Cultures: Different Approaches to Power
- Dating Competition: When a Nice Guy Meets an Asshole
- Bonus E-books
INTRO: Aggressive Behavior. Pros, Cons & Strategies
Aggression is a bit like that famous quote on defining porn.
Even if you’re not sure how to define it, you probably know it when you see it.
But just to be sure, aggressive behavior includes one or some of the following:
2. Visible signs of anger
3. Rude or disrespectful behavior (dismissive in the case of covert aggression)
4. Visible signs of emotional turmoil
5. Open and direct threats, even if delivered calmly
6. Body language that suggests the possibility of an attack
7. Physical shoving or pushing, or the threat of physical aggression
As a rule of thumb, if your default mode is aggressive, you should probably smoothen your edges.
The Use Cases of Aggression
Aggression can be helpful to:
1. Deal with other people’s aggression:
if you remain assertive in front of an onslaught of aggression, assertion is obviously not working.
Furthermore, you can seem powerless.
In that case, meeting aggression with aggression can help stop the aggression with the “pacing and leading technique”: first you meet at their level (pacing), showing you can play the same game, and then you bring them down (leading).
Imagine your girlfriend yells at you for 10 minutes straight at home in spite of you assertively telling her she’s being rude and out of line.
Well… Assertion is clearly not working, then. And if you want to put a stop to it, matching aggression with aggression might prove a far better alternative.
The only moment when Robin Williams seems to have a shred of dignity in the Mrs. Doubtfire divorce scene is when he raises his level of aggression to match hers:
Notice that it’s not about showing aggression per se.
It’s that by matching your attacker’s level of aggression, you communicate that you are not a submissive punching bag who’s incapable of defending and drawing boundaries.
2. Instill fear: assertion gives you respect, but not so much fear. Aggression can make people fear you.
3. Weapon of last resort: If you tried everything and failed, and still want to give it a last shot, going from assertive to aggressive might help you reach your goal in some cases. At least you can say “I tried them all”
4. Win arguments by pushing people on the submissive end of the spectrum (“argument ad potentiam”):
Dominance can be used strategically to push people into the submissive end of the spectrum, or in defense mode. When people start defending and submitting, they can look guilty by behavior, rather than by logic and facts.
Trump likely the presidency thanks to this technique.
The 2017 presidential debates present many examples in which Hillary should have been more aggressive in dealing with Trump:
Trump’s aggression allowed him to curtail Hillary’s speaking time.
She didn’t even have enough air time to make her points.
And from a political point of view, it looked like Trump was the embodiment of the angry citizen grilling an ineffective, crooked politician.
Hillary’s justification confirmed that impression.
5. Assert dominance and control the frame, without breaking rapport (“Aggressive push-pull”): some individuals can use bursts of aggression followed by more assertive or even kinder behavior to assert dominance without totally breaking rapport (“aggressive push-pull”, we’ve seen an example already).
Negotiators can use bursts of aggression to subtly dominate their opponents. when the opponents feel dominated, they will be less likely to negotiate hard and field their demands
6. To more quickly regain power and respect with an aggressive display of force: if people long treated you like a low-value individual it might take quite some time of assertive behavior to regain their respect. In those cases, a stronger display of power through aggression can rebalance the situation quicker.
See an example in this video:
Preventing challenges? Not so sure…
There is one last possible benefit.
Some authors say that keeping people in fear can prevent challenges and life attempts on a powerful man -say, for example, a dictator-.
I am not convinced about it.
I think there are two forces at play: the fear of death or torture can stop some.
But it also creates a more ripe environment for wanting to get rid of that fear, and wanting to get rid of the SOB.
The challengers will also want to make sure that their aggression will leave the dictator dead or totally powerless, and they will be very careful in covering their tracks before they’re ready to hit.
So the dictator gets no sign of impending danger until his premature death.
There is ultimately no proof that fear has ever prolonged -or shortened- anyone’s reign. And I am personally doubtful about whether the advantages outweigh the disadvantages.
Why Constant Aggression Ultimately Backfires
There can be times and places for aggression.
But don’t confuse aggression with social power.
As a rule of thumb, and this is especially true for most people in our modern world, constant aggression erodes power.
Why is aggression ultimately counterproductive?
This is why:
1. Fewer Friends
Aggressive people don’t make others feel good and nobody wants to be around them.
That often leads to few good relationships, a small support network and, in extreme cases, to isolation.
2. Lots of Enemies
Hyper-aggressive Scarface-types can get power quick.
But it tends to be a localized, limited, flash in the pan type of power.
The reality is that lots of enemies mean little power and, in some lines of business, a short life span as well.
3. Can’t Establish a Support Network
Much power rests in your support network.
People in your support network are those who are there to prop you up in power or to break your fall when you’re crashing down.
It’s not just about power, either.
In your everyday life, it’s the people who listen to you when you’re heart-broken, who lend you some money when you’re broke, who come to the hospital to support and who make an intro when you need a job.
Aggressive people have little support network, if any.
Troubleshooting the causes of over-aggression
These are the reasons why people tend to behave overly aggressive.
You can use them to troubleshoot yourself and see if you fit in any of these categories:
1. Family / Background
Some grew up in aggressive families and never learned a different approach.
This is especially dangerous for lower-class individuals, since those who are overly aggressive with little qualities to offset that aggression tend to remain stuck in the lower rungs of society.
2. Addiction / Enjoyment of Confrontation
Some people are addicted -or slave to- the dopamine rushes of confrontations, as well as the brain chemical feeling of dominating others.
3. Sense of Control
Some enjoy -or need- a sense of control, and aggression gives a feeling of control.
Some authors have observed that it’s this sense of control, coupled with immense drive and OCD tendencies, that made Steve Job such a notoriously irascible man.
4. Power Craving
Some people crave power, and they use aggression to always be the one-up in their interactions.
5. It Can Work in Some Situations
And, last but not least, let’s be honest: in the short run aggression often works.
Most people are not aggressive and not even assertive.
Most people end up being too passive and too compliant in the face of aggression. That makes the life of the aggressor feel easier when they boss people around.
Aggression can also work in the workplace, especially in some types of industries.
Aggressive individuals who can avoid the ugliest flares up often enjoy quicker ascension of dominance hierarchies.
Your Task In The Next Two Lessons
The next two lessons will help you to:
1. See and understand negative expressions of dominance
You will see how bad forms of aggression look like in real life.
And you will be invited to compare them with your own behavior and adjust accordingly.
2. See and understand positive expressions of dominance
You will learn to use both dominance and aggression while still being a well-liked and respect-worthy individual.