Module 3 - Workplace Power, Politics & Power Moves
- 1. Basics of Workplace Power
- 2. Power Plan: Concrete Steps to Launch Your Career
- 3. The 17 Political Pitfalls to Avoid
- 4. The 11 Types of Political Players (& How to Deal With Them)
- 5. Dealing With Bad Bosses (& Beating Them For Good)
- 6. Toxic Employees (Guide for Managers)
- Self Awareness Analysis Quiz: Do You Have a Problem With Power?
- 7. Sociopaths: Recognizing & Beating The Worst Political Animals
- 8. Spotting & Beating Workplace Power Moves
- 9. Beating Workplace Enemies
- 10. A Guide for Female Leaders
Module 4 - Dating & Seduction
- 1. Dating & Attraction: The Full Picture (Made Simple)
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Game Is She Playing?
- 2. Power & Games In Seduction: A Walk-Through From 1st Meeting to Relationship
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Dating Strategy is She Using?
- 3. Dating Is a Dance of Dominance & This Post Shows How to Dance
- 4. Games Men Play & Why: Understanding Men
- 5. Cockblockers: The Complete Guide to Beat Them
- Quiz: How Would You Handle This Cockblocker?
- 6. Sex, Dating, Relationships & Power
- Quiz: Intra-Gender Warfare – When Women Fight Women
- Mating Intelligence: What Dating Strategy Is He Using?
Module 5 - Relationship Power Dynamics
- 1. Disclaimer: Avoid Engaging in Relationships’ Power Moves
- 2. Power in Relationships: The Full Theory (Made Simple)
- Social Awareness Quiz: Who’s Got Power in This Relationship?
- 3. The Three Secrets to Relationship Control
- 4. Relationship Power: How Women Control Men (& What to Do About It)
- Mind Control Quiz: How Some Women Control The Most Dominant Men
- 5. Relationship Power: How Men Control Women (& What to Do About It)
- 6. Games Women Play & Power Moves (& How to Deal With Them)
- 7. Relationship Trump Cards: Games of Chicken & Threats
- 8. Relationship Cure: How to End All Games
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz: Turning Arguments Into Love Fests
Module 7 - Bonuses
- World’s Lies: The Systemic Games People Play
- Genders & Cultures: Different Approaches to Power
- Case Study: Johnny Depp
- Social Finessing: 24 Power Pills to Increase Your Influence
- Power & Vulnerability: When to Be Vulnerable & When to Avoid
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #1
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #2
- RSD Tyler: Domain Authority Failure
- Dating Competition: When a Nice Guy Meets an Asshole
- Bonus E-books
INTRO: Why People Behave Aggressively
As a rule of thumb, if your default mode is aggressive, you should probably smoothen your behavioral edges.
These are the reasons why people tend to behave overly aggressive:
1. Family / Background
Some grew up in aggressive families and never learned any better.
This is especially dangerous for lower-class individuals.
Because a Wall-Street trader can afford aggression. Plus he inhabits an environment where aggression is the norm.
But those who are overly aggressive with little qualities to offset that aggression tend to inhabit -and stay stuck- in the lower rungs of society.
2. Addiction / Enjoyment of Confrontation
Some people are addicted -or slave to- the dopamine rushes.
3. Sense of Control
Some enjoy -or need- a sense of control, and aggression gives a feeling of control.
Some authors have observed that it’s this sense of control, coupled with immense drive and OCD tendencies, that made Steve Job such a notoriously irascible man.
4. Sense of Power
And for some of them, without overcomplicating things, it’s the feeling of power.
Insecure individuals -often men-, can also derive a feeling of “I matter in the world”.
5. It Works
And, last but not least, let’s be honest: in the short run aggression often works.
Most people are not aggressive and not even assertive.
Most people end up being too passive and too compliant in the face of aggression. That makes the life of the aggressor feel easier when they boss people around.
Aggression can also work in the workplace, especially in some types of industries.
Aggressive individuals who can avoid the ugliest flares up often enjoy quicker ascension of dominance hierarchies.
Why Aggression Ultimately Backfires
However, don’t confuse aggression with social power.
There are times when being aggressive is the way to go but, generally speaking, aggression by default is NOT social power.
The more people engage in aggression, both intensity-wise and duration-wise, the stronger the tendency of losing power in the long run.
Why is aggression ultimately counterproductive?
1. Few Friends
Aggressive people don’t make others feel good and nobody wants to be around them.
That often leads to few good relationships, a small support network and, in extreme cases, to isolation.
2. Lots of Enemies
Don’t believe the mantra of fascist movements with their “many enemies, much honor”.
Sure, hyper-aggressive Scarface-types can get power quick.
But it tends to be a localized, limited, flash in the pan type of power.
The reality is that lots of enemies mean little power and, sometimes, a short life span as well.
3. Can’t Establish a Support Network
Much power rest in your support network.
People in your support network are those who are there for you, to prop you up in power or to rescue your ass when you’re crashing down and need help back up.
In your everyday life, it’s the people who listen to you when you’re heart-broken, who lend you some money when you’re broke, who come to the hospital to support and who make an intro when you need a job.
Aggressive people have little support network, if any.
Your Task In The Next Two Lessons
The next two lessons will help you to:
1. See and understand negative expressions of dominance
You will see how bad forms of aggression look life in real life.
And you will be invited to compare them with your own behavior and adjust accordingly.
2. See and understand positive expressions of dominance
You will learn to use both dominance and aggression while still being a well-liked and respect individual.