Module 3 - Workplace Power, Politics & Power Moves
- 1. Basics of Workplace Power
- 2. Power Plan: Concrete Steps to Launch Your Career
- 3. The 17 Political Pitfalls to Avoid
- 4. The 11 Types of Political Players (& How to Deal With Them)
- 5. Dealing With Bad Bosses (& Beating Them For Good)
- Self Awareness Analysis Quiz: Do You Have a Problem With Power?
- 6. Power Leechers: Recognizing & Beating The Most Insidious Political Animals
- 7. Spotting & Beating Workplace Power Moves
- 8. Beating Workplace Enemies
Module 4 - Dating & Seduction
- 1. Dating & Attraction: The Full Explanation (Made Simple)
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Game Is She Playing?
- 2. Power & Games In Seduction: The Full Overview (Made Simple)
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Dating Strategy is She Using?
- 3. Dating Is a Dance of Dominance & This Post Shows How to Dance
- 4. Games Men Play & Why: Understanding Men
- 5. Cockblockers: The Complete Guide to Beat Them
- Quiz: How Would You Handle This Cockblocker?
- 6. Sex, Dating, Relationships & Power
- Quiz: Intra-Gender Warfare – When Women Fight Women
- Mating Intelligence: What Dating Strategy Is He Using?
Module 5 - Relationship Power Dynamics
- 1. Disclaimer: Avoid Engaging in Relationships’ Power Moves
- 2. Power in Relationships: The Full Theory (Made Simple)
- Social Awareness Quiz: Who’s Got Power in This Relationship?
- 3. The 2 Secrets to Relationship Control
- 4. Relationship Power: How Women Control Men (& What to Do About It)
- Mind Control Quiz: How Some Women Control The Most Dominant Men
- 5. Relationship Control: How Men Fight Back (& What to Do About It)
- 6. Female Power Moves (& How to Deal With Them)
- 7. Relationship Trump Cards: Games of Chicken & Breakup Threats
- 8. Relationship Cure: How to Fix All Games
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz: Turning Arguments Into Love Fests
Module 7 - Bonuses
- Power Moves FAQ
- World’s Lies: The Systemic Games People Play
- Genders & Cultures: Different Approaches to Power
- Case Study: Johnny Depp
- Social Finessing: 23 Power Pills to Increase Your Influence
- Power & Vulnerability: When to Be Vulnerable & When to Avoid
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #1
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #2
- RSD Tyler: Domain Authority Failure
- Dating Competition: When a Nice Guy Meets an Asshole
INTRO: Why People Behave Aggressively
People behave overly aggressively for a variety of reasons:
1. Family / Background
Some grew up in aggressive families and never learned any better.
This is especially dangerous for lower class individuals.
People who are overly aggressive with little qualities to offset that aggression tend to inhabit -and stay stuck- in the lower layers of society.
2. Addiction / Enjoyment of Confrontation
Some others enjoy the confrontation and are addicted -or slave to- the dopamine rushes.
3. Sense of Power & Control
Some people enjoy -or need- a sense of control.
For some of them is the feeling of power, while for some others it’s an outer manifestation of immense drive coupled with OCD tendencies -think Steve Jobs-.
The sense of power can also provides an ego boost for more insecure individuals -often men-.
4. It Works
And, last but not least, let’s be honest: in the short run aggression often works.
Most people are not aggressive and not even assertive.
Most people end up being too passive and too compliant in the face of aggression. That makes the life of the aggressor feel easier -or so it seems-.
Aggressive individuals who can avoid the ugliest flares up also often enjoy quicker ascension on dominance hierarchies, both in informal groups as much as in structured organizations such as at work.
Why Aggression Ultimately Backfires
However, don’t confuse aggression with social power.
There are times when being aggressive is the way to go but, generally speaking, aggression is NOT social power.
The more people engage in aggression, both intensity-wise and duration-wise, the stronger the tendency of losing power in the long run.
Why is aggression ultimately counterproductive?
1. Few Friends
Aggressive people don’t make others feel good and nobody wants to be around them.
That often leads to few good relationships, a small support network and, in extreme cases, to isolation.
2. Lots of Enemies
Don’t believe the aura of fascist movements with their “many enemies, much honor” mantras.
And don’t be the kid who looks at Scarface -or the local aggressive corner pusher- and thinks that’s the way to go.
Albeit that is a form power, it tends to be a localized, limited, flash in the pan type of power.
The reality is that lots of enemies means little power and sometimes, a short life span as well.
3. Can’t Establish a Support Network
Much power of everyday people rest in their support network.
People in your support network are those who are there for you when you’re in need. It’s the people who listen to you when you’re heart-broken, who lend you some money when you’re broke, who come to the hospital to support and who make an intro when you need a job.
Aggressive people have little support network, if any.
Learning: Aggression VS Power
The next two lessons will help you to:
1. See and understand negative expressions of aggression
You will see how bad forms of aggression look life in real life.
And you will learn the exceptions, such as when aggression is either called for, or even recommendable.
2. See and understand positive expressions of dominance
So that you can implement them in your life.
Overall, you will learn to use both dominance and aggression while still being an overall likable and respectable individual.