Module 3 - Workplace Power, Politics & Power Moves
- 1. Basics of Workplace Power
- 2. Power Plan: Concrete Steps to Launch Your Career
- 3. The 17 Political Pitfalls to Avoid
- 4. The 11 Types of Political Players (& How to Deal With Them)
- 5. Dealing With Bad Bosses (& Beating Them For Good)
- Self Awareness Analysis Quiz: Do You Have a Problem With Power?
- 6. Power Leechers: Recognizing & Beating The Most Insidious Political Animals
- 7. Spotting & Beating Workplace Power Moves
- 8. Beating Workplace Enemies
Module 4 - Dating & Seduction
- 1. Dating & Attraction: The Full Explanation (Made Simple)
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Game Is She Playing?
- 2. Power & Games In Seduction: The Full Overview (Made Simple)
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Dating Strategy is She Using?
- 3. Dating Is a Dance of Dominance & This Post Shows How to Dance
- 4. Games Men Play & Why: Understanding Men
- 5. Cockblockers: The Complete Guide to Beat Them
- Quiz: How Would You Handle This Cockblocker?
- 6. Sex, Dating, Relationships & Power
- Quiz: Intra-Gender Warfare – When Women Fight Women
- Mating Intelligence: What Dating Strategy Is He Using?
Module 5 - Relationship Power Dynamics
- 1. Disclaimer: Avoid Engaging in Relationships’ Power Moves
- 2. Power in Relationships: The Full Theory (Made Simple)
- Social Awareness Quiz: Who’s Got Power in This Relationship?
- 3. The 2 Secrets to Relationship Control
- 4. Relationship Power: How Women Control Men (& What to Do About It)
- Mind Control Quiz: How Some Women Control The Most Dominant Men
- 5. Relationship Control: How Men Fight Back (& What to Do About It)
- 6. Female Power Moves (& How to Deal With Them)
- 7. Relationship Trump Cards: Games of Chicken & Breakup Threats
- 8. Relationship Cure: How to Fix All Games
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz: Turning Arguments Into Love Fests
Module 7 - Bonuses
- Power Moves FAQ
- World’s Lies: The Systemic Games People Play
- Genders & Cultures: Different Approaches to Power
- Case Study: Johnny Depp
- Social Finessing: 23 Power Pills to Increase Your Influence
- Power & Vulnerability: When to Be Vulnerable & When to Avoid
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #1
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #2
- RSD Tyler: Domain Authority Failure
- Dating Competition: When a Nice Guy Meets an Asshole
INTRO: Why People Behave Submissively
Why would anyone behave submissively?
Well, it turns out, there are pay-offs to behave submissively and, at times, there is also power in behaving submissively.
Here are the major reasons why people behave submissively:
1. Background / Family of Origin
Some people grew up in submissive families and they simply absorbed it as the only way of being.
Sometimes it happens from a lineage of genders. for example submissive fathers grow submissive sons and submissive mothers grow submissive daughters.
It can also be cultural, with Japanese women presenting a higher tendency to behave passively and submissively then, say, Western or black African women.
It might be hard to admit for some, but the most common reason people are submissive is fear.
Some are afraid of others and they are afraid of confrontation.
For these people, submission is a way of avoiding all possible troubles and confrontations.
3. Approval Seeking
Some people see it as the best way to get people’s approval or, at least, not to fall on people’s bad side.
They think, subconsciously, that by being passive and not “bothering” others, others will like them more.
This is often reinforced from childhood when the “good children” were praised for not making waves. You can also see it in families where there was one bad boy and one other child who became the “parent’s favorite” for being the good and studios one. Those kids are at high risk of becoming overly passive in life. They have an unconscious fear of not becoming like their bad brothers who gave so much pain to their parents. And just to be sure, they never say no and keep it quiet even when they are hurting inside.
Some others, also falling into the “approval seeking” are mostly afraid of negative judgment.
And, effectively, they relinquish all demands to mental dominance while they place themselves in the child role of most of their interactions.
4. Easy Life
Some people are passive because they have no drive and place no demands on life.
They are the people who sit back and rarely say anything, the ones who shop, at least physically, but contribute little in the group’s assignment. And the ones who will do most of the what they are told by the leaders.
The reward for being passive and submissive in these cases is an easy life.
Do what you’re told, never break the rules, keep a low profile.. And you’ll live a simple life.
5. Tool of Control
Finally, submission can also be a tool of control.
Pleading, begging, guilt tripping, pouting, crying… these can all be submissive expressions which can work to make people act the way we want.
Some psychologists, including Friz Perls, have argued that in close relationships the submissive party often ends up controlling the most aggressive party. In my opinion that’s a big generalization and it’s not always true. But it is true that submissive people often use submission and passive aggression as tools of compliance.
Get Rid of Submission
As a rule of thumb, you want to avoid too many submission signals unless you are doing it on purpose and for a specific purpose.
One because it’s bad for your and for your health, both mental and physical.
And second because by being too passive you will not meet your life potential.
All the “advantages” of a submissive life pale in comparison to the disadvantages.
You are also easy picking for the more aggressive people. The assholes of this world feed off submission. If you don’t want to change for yourself, consider at least doing it for the world.
Remember: becoming less submissive is a favor you not only do to yourself, but to the whole world.
The next two lessons will show you exactly how submission looks like so that you can remove it for your repertoire and start acting more like the socially confident individual that you deserve to be.