Module 3 - Workplace Power, Politics & Power Moves
- 1. Basics of Workplace Power
- 2. Power Plan: Concrete Steps to Launch Your Career
- 3. The 17 Political Pitfalls to Avoid
- 4. The 11 Types of Political Players (& How to Deal With Them)
- 5. Dealing With Bad Bosses (& Beating Them For Good)
- 6. Toxic Employees (Guide for Managers)
- Self Awareness Analysis Quiz: Do You Have a Problem With Power?
- 7. Sociopaths: Recognizing & Beating The Worst Political Animals
- 8. Spotting & Beating Workplace Power Moves
- 9. Beating Workplace Enemies
- 10. A Guide for Female Leaders
Module 4 - Dating & Seduction
- 1. Dating & Attraction: The Full Picture (Made Simple)
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Game Is She Playing?
- 2. Power & Games In Seduction: A Walk-Through From 1st Meeting to Relationship
- Mating Intelligence Quiz: What Dating Strategy is She Using?
- 3. Dating Is a Dance of Dominance & This Post Shows How to Dance
- 4. Games Men Play & Why: Understanding Men
- 5. Cockblockers: The Complete Guide to Beat Them
- Quiz: How Would You Handle This Cockblocker?
- 6. Sex, Dating, Relationships & Power
- Quiz: Intra-Gender Warfare – When Women Fight Women
- Mating Intelligence: What Dating Strategy Is He Using?
Module 5 - Relationship Power Dynamics
- 1. Disclaimer: Avoid Engaging in Relationships’ Power Moves
- 2. Power in Relationships: The Full Theory (Made Simple)
- Social Awareness Quiz: Who’s Got Power in This Relationship?
- 3. The Three Secrets to Relationship Control
- 4. Relationship Power: How Women Control Men (& What to Do About It)
- Mind Control Quiz: How Some Women Control The Most Dominant Men
- 5. Relationship Power: How Men Control Women (& What to Do About It)
- 6. Games Women Play & Power Moves (& How to Deal With Them)
- 7. Relationship Trump Cards: Games of Chicken & Threats
- 8. Relationship Cure: How to End All Games
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz: Turning Arguments Into Love Fests
Module 7 - Bonuses
- World’s Lies: The Systemic Games People Play
- Genders & Cultures: Different Approaches to Power
- Case Study: Johnny Depp
- Social Finessing: 24 Power Pills to Increase Your Influence
- Power & Vulnerability: When to Be Vulnerable & When to Avoid
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #1
- Increasing Your Emotional intelligence Test #2
- RSD Tyler: Domain Authority Failure
- Dating Competition: When a Nice Guy Meets an Asshole
- Bonus E-books
INTRO: Why People Behave Submissively
Why would anyone behave submissively?
Well, it turns out, there are pay-offs to behave submissively and, at times, there is also power in behaving submissively.
Here are the major reasons why people behave submissively:
1. Background / Family of Origin
Sometimes submission happens from a lineage of genders. For example submissive fathers grow submissive sons and submissive mothers grow submissive daughters.
Nurturing also plays a role, and households with submissive parents are unluckily to grow assertive children.
It can also be cultural, with Japanese women presenting a higher incidence of passive and submissive behavior then, say, Western or black African women -or Mongolian women, if we want to stay in Asia-.
Many naturally submissive people will not easily admit, but one of the most common reasons people are submissive is fear.
Most of the times, it’s a fear of confrontation.
For these people, submission is a way of avoiding all possible troubles and altercations. It’s their ticket to a “safe”, quiet life.
In the long run, though submission in the face of abuse is everything but safe. Ongoing abuse and a life of swallowing our true feelings is very unhealthy, both emotionally and physically.
3. Approval Seeking
Some people see submission as the best way to get people’s approval or, at least, to avoid people’s negative judgment.
They think, subconsciously, that by being passive and not “bothering” others, they will be liked more.
This is often reinforced from childhood when the “good children” were praised for not making waves.
You can see it in families with two different children: a misbehaving one and a “good” one. The good child became the “parent’s favorite”, praised and loved for being good and studious.
Those kids are at risk of becoming overly passive in life because of the early reinforcement placed on compliance, growing an unconscious fear of becoming like their bad brother.
4. Easy Life
Some people are passive because they have no drive and place no demands on life.
The reward for being passive and submissive in these cases is an easy life.
Do what you’re told, never break the rules, keep a low profile… And you’ll live a simple, easy life.
This is not completely untrue as leaders shoulder more responsibilities and live a more hectic and demanding life.
However, there are plenty of ways to be an assertive, leader-like individual while also enjoying an easy and good life (for one, I don’t think my life is any “hard” or “difficult”).
5. Tool of Control
Finally, submission can also be a tool of control.
Pleading, begging, guilt tripping, pouting, crying… these are all be submissive expressions which can work wonders to make people act the way we want.
Some psychologists, including Friz Perls, have argued that in close relationships the submissive party often ends up controlling the most aggressive party.
That’s a big generalization and it’s not always true, of course. But in some cases, it is. And some submissive people often use submission and passive aggression as tools of compliance.
Get Rid of Submission
As a rule of thumb, you want to avoid sending too many submission signals unless you are doing it on purpose and for a specific purpose.
A life too skewed on the submissive end of the spectrum is not optimal for your health, both mental and physical.
And second, by being too passive it will be harder for you to meet your true potential.
Overall the “advantages” of a submissive life pale in comparison to the disadvantages.
You are also easy picking for the more aggressive people.
The assholes of this world feed off submission. If you don’t want to change for yourself, consider at least doing it for the world.
Remember: becoming less submissive is a favor you not only do to yourself, but to the whole world.
The next two lessons will show you exactly how submission looks like.
This way, you can remove it for your repertoire and start acting more like the socially confident individual that you deserve to be.