To Date a Man You Must Understand a Man is a dating advice book for women. It goes straight to the point: no fluff and lots of great practical advice.
- A man must be self-reliant before he’s ready for a relationship
- Show standards: women with now demands are short term women
- Men show love in a different way. Fixing your problems, for example
I sometimes feel women miss the man’s point of view when writing dating advice for women. I’ve noticed they often stress the “bitch” and “getting back to men” side.
However that could easily start a combative dynamic in the relationship.
Gregg instead stresses you make him feel special, make him feel like he’s in control and stand by him. As a note “make him feel like he’s in control” doesn’t mean that behind the curtains you don’t pull the strings.
I particularly enjoyed some of the details with which Gregg describes a high-quality woman. He says a high quality woman knows what she wants and asks pointed questions.
Why do you wanna take me out
In my experience, some women are indeed very direct and the first time I saw this behavior it stumped me because it’s quite rare. Also black women tend to be more direct in that sense.
Gregg says that when you need to demand something, it can be a good attitude you act a bit more like a man. Tell as it is, straight up, and then move on.
No nagging and no pouting for hours.
He has a great example for this, check it out in the book.
Real Life Applications
Don’t Ask For Stuff
Gregg righteously says you shouldn’t ask for things: men are wary of gold diggers. And I couldn’t agree more.
I liked Gregg’s suggestion you should change a bit yourself in a relationship. It helps to keep the novelty up.
It’s not strictly related to the book, but… It’s solid content, so I think Gregg would stand to gain with a better book cover, which plainly sucks.
On the other hand, the audiobook is very good.
If you liked titles such like Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man and The Power of The Pussy you’ll like To Date a Man You Must Understand a Man. It reiterates some of the best points of these two books and plus it adds a few good insights.
And it’s short and to the point.