Dating Power Dynamics Resources
- The Mating Mind, Geoffrey Miller, 2000
- The Red Queen, Matt Ridley, 1993
- The Evolution of Desire, David Buss, 2016 (4th edition)
- Mate, Geoffrey Miller and Tucker Max, 2015
- The Moral Animal, Robert Wright, 1994
- The Selfish Gene, Richard Dawkins, 2006 (third edition)
- Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters, Kanazawa, 2008
- Attraction Explained, Viren Swami, 2006
- Evolutionary Psychology, David Buss, 2018
- How the Mind Works, Steven Pinker, 1998
- Why Women Have Better Sex Under Socialism, Kristen Ghodsee, 2018
- Alpha Male Strategies, AMS, 2018
- Mate Selection Criteria: A Trait Desirability Assessment Study of Sex Differences in Serbia, Bojan Todosijević, 2003
- Positive and negative preferences in human mate selection, Nicolas Vaillant & Francois-Charles Wolff, 2010
- Sex and age differences in preferences and tactics of mate attraction: Analysis of published advertisements, Iain Greenless, 1994
- Mating and Marketing, David Buss, 2019
- Mate Preferences and Their Behavioral Manifestations, David Buss, 2019
- Assortative mating and the evolution of desirability covariation, David Buss, 2019
- Deceit and Self-Deception: The Relationship between Communication and Consciousness, Robert Trivers, 1991
- Parental Investment and Sexual Selection, Robert Trivers, 1972
- Testosterone-dependent facial and body traits predict sociosexual attitudes and behaviors, Todd K. Shackelford, 2019
- Sperm competition in marriage: Semen displacement, male rivals, and spousal discrepancy in sexual interest, Todd K. Shackelford, 2017
- Sex differences in perceptions of attractiveness of strong and weak male walkers, Todd K. Shackelford, 2016
- An Evolutionary Psychological Perspective on Cultures of Honor, Todd K. Shackelford, 2015
- Why Is Muscularity Sexy? Tests of the Fitness Indicator Hypothesis, Frederick et. al, 2007
- Men’s Bodily Attractiveness: Muscles as Fitness Indicators, Durkee et. al., 2019
- How Sexually Dimorphic Are Human Mate Preferences?, Daniel Conroy-Beam et. al., 2015
- Female physical characteristics and intra-sexual competition in women, Bernard Fink et. al., 2014
- Human sexual conflict from molecules to culture, Gregory Gorelik, 2011
- Some Like Them Hot: How Germans Construct Male Attractiveness, Bauer, Hofmeister, 2009
- Sexual conflict in humans: Evolutionary consequences of asymmetric parental investment and paternity uncertainty, Aaron Goetz, 2009
- Sex ratio and mate preferences: A cross-cultural investigation, Emily Stone, 2007
- Narcissism and the strategic pursuit of short-term mating: Universal links across 11 world regions of the International Sexuality Description Project-2., David Schmitt, et. al., 2017
- Big Five Traits Related to Short-Term Mating: From Personality to Promiscuity across 46 Nations, Todd K. Shackelford et. al., 2008
- The desire for sexual variety as a key to understanding basic human mating strategies, David Schmitt et. al., 2005
- Are men really more ‘oriented’ toward short-term mating than women? A critical review of theory and research, David Schmitt & Todd K. Shackelford, 2001
- He said, she said: Men’s reports of mate value and mate retention behaviors in intimate relationships, Starratt and Shackelford, 2012
- Personality and mate preferences: five factors in mate selection and marital satisfaction, Botwin , 1997
- Universal dimensions of human mate preferences, Schmitt, Shackelford & Buss, 2005
- Do Mate Preferences Influence Actual Mating Decisions? Evidence From Computer Simulations and Three Studies of Mated Couples, Daniel Conroy-Beam and David M. Buss, 2016
- Sex Differences in Long-Term Mating Preferences, David Schmitt & David Buss
- Mate preferences of married persons in the newlywed year and
three years later, Shackelford, Schmitt & Buss, 2005
- Socioeconomic Development and Shifts in Mate Preferences, Emily Stone & David Buss, 2008
- Evolved Sex Differences in the Number of Partners Desired? The Long and the Short of It, Pederson et. al., 2002
- A Half Century of Mate Preferences: The Cultural Evolution of Values, David Buss, 2011
- Is variability in mate choice similar for intelligence and personality traits? Testing a hypothesis about the evolutionary genetics of personality, David Buss et. al., 2012
- The allure of vulnerability: Advertising cues to exploitability as a signal of sexual accessibility, Cari Goetz et. al., 2014
- Sexual Conflict in Human Mating, David Buss, 2017
- Gossip as an intrasexual competition strategy: Predicting information
sharing from potential mate versus competitor mating strategies, Joy Wyckoff, 2018
- Sexual and Emotional Infidelity: Evolved Gender Differences in Jealousy Prove Robust and Replicable, David Buss, 2017
- Sexual regret: Evidence for evolved sex differences, Galperin, 2013
- The Costs of Rape, Carin Perilloux, 2011
- Sexual exploitability: observable cues and their link to sexual attraction, Cari Goetz et. al., 2012
- Ovulatory Shifts in Female Sexual Desire, Elizabeth Pillsworth, 2004
- Women’s sexual strategies: the hidden dimension of extrapair mating, Heidi Greiling, 1998
- Is there an early-30’s peak in female sexual desire? Cross-sectional evidence from the United States and Canada, Schmitt et. al., 2002
- Adult hippocampal neurogenesis buffers stress responses and depressive behaviour, Snyder et. al., 2011
- Environment contingent preferences: Exposure to visual cues of direct male–male competition and wealth increase women’s preferences for masculinity in male faces, Little, DeBruine, & Jones, 2013
- The evolutionary psychology of extrapair sex: The role of fluctuating asymmetry, Gangestad & Thornhill, 1997
- The evolutionary psychology of facial beauty, Rhodes, 2006
- How does marriage affect length of life? Analysis of a French historical dataset from an evolutionary perspective, Gellatly & Strömer, 2017
- Sex differences in the anatomical locations of human body scarification and tattooing as a function of pathogen prevalence,
Singh & Bronstad, 1997
- The biology of facial beauty, Fink & Neave, 2005
- Visual skin color distribution plays a role in the perception of age, attractiveness, and health of female faces, Fink, Grammer, & Matts, 2006
- Color homogeneity and visual perception of age, health, and attractiveness of female facial skin, Matts et. al.
- The Evolution of Human Physical Attractiveness, Gangestad & Scheyd, 2005
- Female Facial Appearance and Health, Gray & Boothroyd, 2012
- Vocal and visual attractiveness is related in women, Collins & Missing, 2003
- High heels as supernormal stimuli: How wearing high heels affects judgements of female attractiveness, Morris, White, Morrison, & Fisher, 2013
- Adaptive preferences for leg length in a potential partner, Sorokowski & Pawlowski, 2008
- Lumbar curvature: A previously undiscovered standard of attractiveness, Lewis et al., 2015
- Strategic reactions to unfaithfulness: Female self-presentation in the context of mate attraction is linked to uncertainty of paternity, Dosmukhambetova & Manstead, 2011
- Parental Bereavement: A Panoramic View, Hunt & Greeff, 2012
- Estimating the prevalence of nonpaternity in Germany, Wolf, Musch, Enczmann, & Fischer, 2012
- Physical Attractiveness Contrast Effect: Implications for Self-Esteem and Evaluations of the Social Self, Thornton and Moore, 1993
- Amounts spent on engagement rings reflect aspects of male and female mate quality, Cronk & Dunham, 2007
- Female intrasexual competition decreases female facial attractiveness, Fisher, 2004
- Husband’s Esteem Predicts his Mate Retention Tactics, Holden et. al., 2014
- Boosting beauty in an economic decline: mating, spending, and the lipstick effect, Hill, Rodeheffer, Griskevicius, Durante, & White, 2012
- The relative importance of the face and body in judgments of human
physical attractiveness, by Currie and Little, 2009
- Toward an evolutionary history of female sociosexual variation, Gangestad and Simpson, 1990
- Evolution, traits, and the stages of human courtship: qualifying the parental investment model, Kenrick, Sadalla, Groth, & Trost, 1990
- Sex differences in type of extramarital involvement and marital dissatisfaction, Glass and Wright, 1985
- Justifications for Extramarital Relationships: The Association between Attitudes, Behaviors, and Gender, Glass and Wright, 1982
- Social exclusion and female mating behavior: Rejected women show strategic enhancement of short-term mating interest, Sacco et. al., 2012
- No evidence for ovulatory cycle shifts in women’s preferences for men’s behaviors in a pre-registered study, Jünger, Gerlach, & Penke, 2018.
- Sociosexuality in Women and Preference for Facial Masculinization and Somatotype in Men, Provost, Kormos, Kosakoski, & Quinsey, 2006
- Trade-offs in Low-Income Women’s Mate Preferences, Vigil, Geary, & Byrd-Craven, 2004
- The dark triad and relationship preferences: A replication and extension, Koladich & Atkinson, 2016
- Is Male Care Compromised by Additional Mating Opportunity, Magrath & Komdeur, 2003
- The evolutionary biology of human female sexuality. Gangestad & Thornhill, 2008
- Human parenting from an evolutionary perspective,
Bjorklund & Jordan, 2013
- Peer victimization in adolescence has different effects on the sexual behavior of male and female college students, Gallup, O’Brien, White, & Wilson, 2009
- The influence of female attractiveness on competitor derogation, Fisher & Cox, 2009
- Intolerance of sexy peers: intrasexual competition among women, Vaillancourt & Sharma, 2011
- Evolutionary perspective on indirect victimization in adolescence: the role of attractiveness, dating and sexual behavior, Leenaars, Dane, & Marini, 2008
- Women selectively guard their (desirable) mates from ovulating women, Krems, Neel, Neuberg, Puts, & Kenrick, 2016
- Error management theory: A new perspective on biases in cross-sex mind reading, Haselton & Buss, 2000
- Sociosexuality as predictor of sexual harassment and coercion in female and male high school students, Kennair & Bendixen, 2012
- Advances in the Understanding of Same-Sex and Opposite-Sex Sexual Harassment, Bendixen & Kennair, 2017
- The Dark Triad and sexual harassment proclivity, Zeigler-Hill, Besser, Morag, & Campbell, 2016
- The unholy trinity: The Dark Triad, coercion, and Brunswik-Symmetry, Figuered et. al., 2015
- Intimate Partner Violence and Life History Strategy, Figueredo, Gladden, & Beck, 2010
- Sexual coercion and life-history strategy, Gladden, Sisco, & Figueredo, 2008
- (Mis)matching in physical attractiveness and women’s resistance to mate guarding, Fugère, Cousins, & MacLaren, 2015
- Invariances in the architecture of pride across small-scale societies, Sznycer et al., 2018
- Cross-cultural regularities in the cognitive architecture of pride
Sznycer et al., 2017
- Sexual conflict over mating and fertilization: an overview, Parker, 2006
- Sexual economics: sex as female resource for social exchange in heterosexual interactions, Baumeister and Vohs, 2004
- Men’s misperceptions about the acceptability and
attractiveness of aggression, Vandello et. al., 2009
- Niceness and dating success: A further test of
the nice guy stereotype, Urbaniek and Killman, 2006
- Physical Attractiveness and the “Nice Guy Paradox”:
Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?, Urbaniek and Killman, 2003
- The Perils of Being a Nice Guy: Contextual Variation in Five Young Women’s Constructions of Acceptable Hegemonic and Alternative Masculinities, Talbot & Quayle (2010)
- Dissing Oneself versus Dissing Rivals: Effects of Status, Personality, and Sex on the Short-Term and Long-Term Attractiveness of Self-Deprecating and Other-Deprecating Humor, Miller & Greengross
- Evolution and the Theory of Games, Maynard Smith, 1982
The change log starts from version 4.
- The Sexual Marketplace (chapter 1)
This part analyzes all the traits that men and women seek in a mate.
It combs several of the best evolutionary psychology books to give you a quick overview of what people offer and demand in the sexual marketplace.
Some of this stuff you know for sure and it will not be new, but some other traits be more surprising (how high kindness ranks and the #1 position for loyalty in a large survey).
- Evolved Tools of Sexual Conflict (chapter 3)
The interests of men and women diverge sometimes, and both genders evolved some tools and techniques to take advantage of each other.
This chapter reviews what those adaptations are.
It’s a slightly more information-rich version of the public post “sexual conflict”, so if you read that post you can skip it. Otherwise, it can provide some helpful information.
- What influences Sexual Market Value (chapter 4)
New chapter, it combines some bits that were previously scattered and adds some new information.
It quickly reviews how one’s sexual market value varies depending on variables such as gender ratio, personality, culture, children, state (socialist VS laissez-faire).
Some of those variables we can easily change, so there is some important practical takeaway there.
- New Chapter: effective sexual strategies (both men and women)
This is a new chapter listing all known research on what’s been proven to work in dating for both men and women, combined with practical tips and real-life examples.
- Breaking up chapters and adding info: short and long term dating
For ease of reading, I combined information on short and long term dating strategies into a new chapter dedicated to these two overarching dating strategies.
- Breaking up chapter: sexual strategies for men & women
I broke up the chapter on sexual strategies for both men and women, plus adding more examples for each.
- New game: conspicuous rejection
I added a new game women play. That’s the “conspicuous rejection”, when they make a big show of rejecting the guy.
I explain what this game is and how men can handle it.
- More examples
I added a lot more examples.
Since having picture would have made the file huge, I instead link out to picture that I host on this website.