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Sexualing interactions through art & romance frames: an example

Sexualizing the conversation is good.

But sexualization is always a risk.

Do it too crudely as a man, and 90% of the times you're out -and deservedly so-.
The risks of sexualization are higher when texting or calling, with more sexually repressed/low sexual drive women, and in more formal settings.

But there is a way to reduce the risk and still keep the benefits of the sexualization.
As a matter of fact, if you do it well, not only you sexualize the conversation, but you gain huge points in personality as well. Plus, you increase the chemistry and the sense of "us".

One of the safest ways of doing so is by hinting and introducing sex through art, romance, as well as adventure frames (the latter an older staple of pick-up, albeit less effective than the first two).

Basically, you want to sexualize through "higher" forms and expressions of passion, rather than introducing sex as a standalone.

Here is one example.
Before our first date, she sends me a painting she's done:

text example of sexualizing a conversation with a mix of romance and passion

Imagine what a better frame the date will happen under.
The two of us, two passionate people who enjoy art, beauty, and love (and, by extension, love-making).


Have you ever seen ThePowerMoves YouTube channel?

If so, you probably noticed a painting of a man and woman kissing hanging on a wall.
The idea behind it is to convey the same feelings: introducing sex through art, love, and general passion, without being too crude.

 

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I think art can be an excelent way to get into sexual topics, for this purpose it would help to know what artists include a high dose of sensualism or eroticism in their work but of the subtle variety, then you can proced to explain those not so obvious details to the other person, just like your were droping some interesting trivia, so that person will probably find you at the same time erudite in a cool way, and attractive as you become an "art-sex" teacher, the use of some poetic language mixed with more common words can also be highly effective but should not be overdone.

Quote from Stef on August 14, 2020, 11:00 am

I think art can be an excelent way to get into sexual topics, for this purpose it would help to know what artists include a high dose of sensualism or eroticism in their work but of the subtle variety, then you can proced to explain those not so obvious details to the other person, just like your were droping some interesting trivia, so that person will probably find you at the same time erudite in a cool way, and attractive as you become an "art-sex" teacher, the use of some poetic language mixed with more common words can also be highly effective but should not be overdone.

That's a very good idea, Stef.

Spending a few hours to learn about a few artists with a high charge of eroticism in their work could yield great results when dating a more artistic type.

Even if you don't know the artists she likes, when you nod and agree as general approval for her tastes, and then mention what you like, then you two come across as kindred souls who can enrich each other.

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