vicknick introduction
Hello everyone
It's awesome to be able to join this community. I recently purchased Seduction University and learned quite a few things about power dynamics between men and women. I hope to be able to use this skills to improve my dating life.
A bit about myself: I'm 29 years old, and based in South East Asia. I have only recently discovered the whole 'red pill' and power dynamics between man-woman after my breakup early last year. Before that, I was in a relationship with my GF with lasted for 5 years. My problem is I have been too 'nice' to my partner and always did what she wanted. Even the thought of breaking up with her would make my hands shaking, as I thought I won't be able to find another girl like her. A typical beta male you could say. At last, she initiated the break up, but looking back I am grateful for that as I have the chance to discover and improve on power awareness between the two sexes.
Right now, I am hoping to improve on my seduction skills, as well as being able to hold power and be more masculine. I have been meeting different women for the past one year. I noticed some patterns where some girls responded well, but some girls would be expressionless and aloof. I was thinking that my conversation might be too bland and not emotionally stimulating, something I need to improve on. Besides, I have always been afraid of rejections, both during pickup or dates when the woman says 'no'. It's something I have to work on and pushes through.
Glad to be able to share my journey, and looking forward to learning and contributing to the community!
Hello vicknick and good to see you here!
Talking about a blessing in disguise and turning a seemingly bad event into a catalyst for what may be one the best events to ever happen to you.
Yours is a common experience, I think.
And I may even say it's common and expected to be less confident when younger and/or on on your first relationship.
As for "nice", I'd say that:
- The law of balance applies
- How's the overall relationship (win-win, or lose-win?)
- What one means about it
Nice in the sense of well-diposed, supportive, wanting the best and wanting to add value in a generally win-win relationship... Then you're golden.
It's great if one is also generally high-power, enforces fair boundaires, can and knows how to say "no" and, generally speaking, is a respect-worthy man.
"Too nice" in the sense of fear, fearing to say "no", bending over backwards to make all her wishes true no matter the costs, losing respect and turning the relationship into a lose-win, then yeah, definitely not good (and I think you're referring more to this second type).
Welcome here!
Hello vicknick!
Welcome here!
Hello vicknick!
Welcome as well! The things you realized are quite important and now you can work on them.
Godspeed!
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 19, 2023, 10:29 amHello vicknick and good to see you here!
Talking about a blessing in disguise and turning a seemingly bad event into a catalyst for what may be one the best events to ever happen to you.
Yours is a common experience, I think.
And I may even say it's common and expected to be less confident when younger and/or on on your first relationship.As for "nice", I'd say that:
- The law of balance applies
- How's the overall relationship (win-win, or lose-win?)
- What one means about it
Nice in the sense of well-diposed, supportive, wanting the best and wanting to add value in a generally win-win relationship... Then you're golden.
It's great if one is also generally high-power, enforces fair boundaires, can and knows how to say "no" and, generally speaking, is a respect-worthy man."Too nice" in the sense of fear, fearing to say "no", bending over backwards to make all her wishes true no matter the costs, losing respect and turning the relationship into a lose-win, then yeah, definitely not good (and I think you're referring more to this second type).
Welcome here!
Thanks for your advice! Yeah, it's the second one that I was experiencing that time. Even today after reading TPM and other websites, I still have a little bit of this issue of being 'nice'. Have to get rid of this mindset and be 'badass'.
I'm currently listening to "Who's pulling your strings". She says: "Be real not nice". I thought you might be interested in this mindset. I am 🙂