Make Your Bed by William McRaven is a book on the mindsets, beliefs and values of the tenacious men.
- Start each day with a small win
- Going it alone is weak: find great teammates instead (including in your relationship)
- Dare greatly and face your fears
Make Your Bed
Make your bed is meant in part figuratively, but certainly also literally.
The reason why you do your bed is to start the day with an accomplished task. You start with a win, and it puts in the positive mood of someone who gets things done.
You Need a Teammate
You need friends and teammates in life.
And I particularly loved that one of William McRaven’s example of a teammate is actually his wife.
It helped him get through a difficult time in life in which, without her, he would have become depressed.
That’s very powerful and very vulnerable of him to say and he’s right. The science of attachment indeed explains that having a strong emotional support from our partner make us stronger.
Life is Unfair
Life is unfair, and you should stop wasting your time and energies complaining about it.
That’s how it is, do something about it instead of complaining.
Use Your Failures
McRaven’s swimming team during his SEAL training was constantly arriving last. That also mean they’d have to go through an intense punishment-training called “the circus”. The circus was so tough that many members would quit instead of finishing it.
But he went through it, and at the final swim test his team finished first. That’s a lesson on how to use your failures.
And if you want a more intellectual approach, I am a big believer of what Ray Dalio says: pain + reflection are your biggest growth opportunities.
There is always the possibility for failure. The more you go for bigger goals, the bigger the possibility for failure.
If you want to achieve anything significant in life, you must move towards the obstacles head first. Those who live in fear of failure and embarrassment commit the ultimate sin: not living up to their potential.
Real Life Applications
Stand Up to Bullies
I loved the analogy of the sharks and the sharks of life.
That’s basically the spirit of this website. Face the sharks and stand up to bullies. You do it for yourself, but also for the world.
Accept Life’s Not Fair
This is another big lesson. Life is not fair: accept it. And use your energies and wits to work around, learn from it, leverage it or… To contribute making it fair (without whining).
Never Quit… ?
I can imagine people who finish an exhaustive training tend to feel proud they went through and tend to look down at those who quit.
The author indeed stresses the idea of never quitting and equates quitting to “ringing the bell” when a Navy SEAL would quit the training.
I think there are many situations when quitting is the best option. Quitting your dull job, quitting before your risk severe injuries… Or even quitting Navy SEAL training if that’s not your thing. Maybe you’ll go ahead and do wonderful things without your life.
I love how Make Your Bed stresses that having a strong network around you, including your romantic partner, is key in making you stronger.
Motivational… In a Great Way
Make Your Book is motivational… But not in any empty way. It’s motivation in a very powerful way. For example when it says that the smaller crew always finished first in his training. Nothing mattered, he says, but your will to succeed.
Make Your Bed is a powerful book on the power of persistence and heart.
But also on the importance of building a great supporting team around you, including your relationship.
I decided to give Make Your Bed 4 stars because, after all, the messages are well known. Albeit they are experience-backed and well told.
But I was on the verge of giving it 5 stars.
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