Men on Strike is Helen Smith’s extremely interesting take on how current (American) society has become hostile towards the male gender. And the heavy consequences that it’s unleashing.
- Our society has become increasingly hostile and unfair towards men
- Men lose their shirts in case of divorce and are held hostage by their wives
- Men are reacting by “refusing to play”: not getting married, not being chivalrous
Helen Smith, the author, considered herself a feminist. Until she found out that feminism didn’t mean equality of sexes but female privileges and discrimination against men.
She decided she wasn’t going to stand for that.
The author says that marriage has become a better and better deal for women and more and more dangerous for men. She cites a survey from Men’s Health showing how men in cohabiting situation are happier and more confident than married men. And they wives thinner.
This is because, says the author, marriage gives power to the woman, who takes the man for granted and treats him as hired help rather than as a partner (albeit, I have to add, correlation does not imply causation).
I also found it interesting, albeit it’s drawn from a small sample size (141) and on self-described traits, that the men more likely to be against marriage were virgins and low earners.
Men who identified themselves as alpha males were more likely to want a marriage.
Feminization of Society
Helen Smith says that schools, colleges and society frown upon masculinity. And the tendency is to eradicate and stamp out male traits from boys.
Men, says the authors, are seen as the abusers and the dangerous sex.
Men Abandoning College
Since the environment is so anti-male at universities, more and more men are abandoning college. And that’s why, implies the author, there’s more and more women on campus.
This is similar to the message that Jordan Peterson more recently has been sending out -check his 12 Rules for Life-.
My Note: It’s probably true that feminism and anti-male campaigning is too strong in universities, but I believe the reasons of decreasing male attendance is, by and large, of different nature. Read Date-onomics.
No Father-hood Control
Men don’t have much control on their fate as father. If the woman tricks the man saying she was on the pill, he has no say on whether or not the baby should born.
BUT, on the other hand:
But Stuck With Child Support
The man will be forced to pay for child support -it doesn’t matter whether or not he was tricked into it-.
Indeed there are many cases of women who used a man’s sperm for self-impregnation and received big checks as a reward for their shenanigans.
One shameful example for all: Boris Becker.
Even in statutory male rape a man is forced to pay.
Men’s Affirmative Actions
The author has lots of great tips on groups you can join and even great advise on how you can react to women trying to put you down.
And most of all, I liked the concept that you shouldn’t fall for the mindset of “man up and shut up”, but speak up against abuse.
Real Life Applications
I’ll make a proper article about it, but not to get screwed the author recommends:
- Stay single
- Cohabit but don’t get married
- Know your local law and palimony laws
Men on Strike sometimes presents a lot of empirical evidence based on stories and some too small sample size to draw conclusions (like a poll on Vox Day with 141 respondents).
But this is not to say the book doesn’t make valid points: it does make very valid points.
I disagree with some of the key tenets of Men on Strike. Namely, that men are withdrawing from college because they sense unfairness. And I think it goes a bit too far at times.
But it also presents extremely valid points.
I have to admit I was skeptical before starting to read it. I reject feminism because of its juxtaposition of genders, of viewing women VS men.
So for the same reason men VS women (or VS current feminine society) was equally meaningless to me.
Plus I was loath of sounding like a complainer and I had always refused of entertaining the thought that current regulation was unfair towards men.
After all, nobody ever says it.
But this book opened my eyes on many current injustices.
And I had to nod as a I realized for the first time that yes, it’s not damn normal that as a man I don’t want to be seen too close near to children. And that’s possibly because the society image these days is that of men as children’s predators (urgh!).
And of course:
- Men force to pay child support for children who are not theirs
- Men forced to pay child support for children they fathered as teenagers with 30-something women
All pretty crazy.
So I not only recommend you read Men on Strike, but I would warmly welcome people to reflect on its message.