What are the most underrated books of all times?
I’m glad you asked!
Lucio here, and I read a ton of books.
And of all those books in that list, I consider the following to be the most underrated that I have read:
Most Underrated Books
Outside of the top 10, but no less underrated:
- The Millionaire Fastlane: hundreds of finance books promise to make you rich by repeating the same old beaten down concept: save and invest in the stock market. Hundreds of “make you rich” guides promise you the secrets to get rich while the only secret with which the author got rich is by selling you those guides. The Millionaire Fastlane rips both apart.
And for being so honest and sincere and for potentially saving people from wasting money on crap products, it deserves a special place in this list of most underrated books.
- The Tao of Dating: hundreds of cookie cutters dating books for women repeat the same old concepts: make him chase, make him invest in you, let him wait for sex. Of course, those “tips” only work under certain conditions and with some types of men and are wholly counterproductive in others.
The Tao of Dating does apart with all that crap to present a truly different -and better- approach to women’s dating.
- Thanks for The Feedback: same authors of “Difficult Conversation” and same high quality.
- I’m OK – You’re OK: one of the most important books in my personal development, social understanding and psychological health.
- People Skills: plenty of popular communication skills books, and I found this lesser known one to be the best of them
by Jon Birger
Summary | Kindle | Print
So many dating books out there pitching personal opinions as the cure to dating woes. And don’t get me wrong: some of them can have great content.
But there is a glaring lack to most products in the dating literature: scientific research.
Dateonomics stands in stark contrast to that: lots of numbers and great wisdom in interpreting those numbers.
It’s one of the most eye opening books I have read when it comes to dating.
“It’s not that he’s not into you, it’s just that there aren’t enough of him”
9. There Is No Good Card for This
by Crowe and McDowell
Summary | Audiobook
Somebody said that to train yourself for the easy situation you need to get ready for the tough one.
Well, if you want to apply that mindset to social skills, “There is No Good Card for This” trains to dealing with people when it’s most difficult: when tragedy strikes and when you really don’t know what to say.
Lots of wisdom and much social nuances to learn for those who want to improve their social skills.
“Forgiveness comes when we’re able to recognize that the other person’s actions were more about them—their own motivations and context—than about us“
8. Difficult Conversations
Difficult Conversation trails the more famous and best-selling “Crucial Conversations“.
Yet, I found it to be the best communication resources I have ever read -or even watched- on engaging in difficult conversation.
“The single most important thing is to shift internal stance from “I understand” to “help me understand.” Everything else follows from that. . . . “
7. The Art of The Deal
by Donad Trump & Tony Schwartz
Summary | Audiobook
Maybe not one of the most underrated books of all times, but probably one of the most unjustly criticized.
With a whopping 11% of one star rating, it’s obvious that The Art of The Deal has been judged by political views and personal antipathies towards the author.
Me instead, I found it genius.
Not only I learned a lot about power moves and how tycoons think, but I also laughed and thoroughly enjoyed this wonderful book.
Note: please note that this not a nod of approval towards Donald Trump or his administration. This is purely a judgment of the book itself.
“I could earn at least a modern return on my investment. But then again, modest is not my favorite word.“
6. Workplace Poker
I was thinking of comparing Workplace Poker to The 48 Laws of Power of the workplace. Then I realized it wasn’t fair to Dan Rust, because this book is even better.
It had me nodding and adding “boom” and “genius” to my Kindle notes more than any other career book I have ever read.
“You can’t get inside someone else’s head until you get out of your own”
5. Emotional Vampires
by Albert Bernstein
Summary | Kindle
Albert Bernstein is an academic who does not uses academic language in this wonderful and severely underrated book.
And that’s an advantage for every layperson who wants to better understand personality disorders. As a matter of fact, I have never read a better book to understand personality disorders.
Some of these passages had me connect people in my life to a personality disorder one “aha moment” after another.
“Never answer a why question! (…) The purpose question is never to understand your reasoning, but to elicit words that can be twisted.”
4. Secrets of Power Negotiating
Less than 300 reviews for this treasure trove of negotiation power moves.
No wonder people are getting ripped off day in day out the whole world over :).
“It’s when you are upset and out of control that you always lose.”
3. Fooled By Randomness
by Nassim Taleb
Summary | Audiobook
At 730 reviews on Amazon and only a 4.2 rating Fooled by Randomness leaves me scratching my head. Maybe people don’t like Taleb’s circumlocution, digression, and “holier than thou” style?
Or is the cognitive dissonance (Festinger, 1957) that we are less in charge of destiny than we think we are that rubs people off the wrong way?
Of course, it can be painful to realize that sometimes talent has little to do with success. And that we should really learn to suspend judgment because, well… It’s so easy being fooled by randomness.
But knowledge shouldn’t stop because we don’t like to hear the truth.
As Ray Dalio says, we should do the opposite: look at reality all the harder right when it’s painful.
So grab your copy of Fooled by Randomness and become that little bit more enlightened :).
A mistake is not something to be determined after the fact, but in light of the information available until that point
2. Will I Ever Be Good Enough
“Will I Ever Be Good Enough” is the book that impacted me the most when it comes to parent-children relationship and how parents can harm their children.
However, this is not just theory and what makes it the second most underrated book ever, is its power to improve children’s lives.
And that’s what it did form. It helped me understand my own history, childhood and mother relationship. And it was therapeutic in that it helped me break free from the need of motherly approval.
I’m very thankful to McBride for having written this book. Not just for me, but to everyone in the world who will become a better human being thanks to her awesome work.
Most damaging is that a narcissistic mother never approves of her daughter
1. The Moral Animal
The sign that we live in a f*cked up world is not the arms’race, that we can’t reduce our own pollution or that serial killers have their own cheerleaders.
The real sign we live in f*cked up world is that The Moral Animal has less than 300 reviews on Amazon.
“We are built to be effective animals, not happy ones”
Most Underrated Books: a Note
This is a note I like to add to any “numbered list post”.
Numbers and orders are seductive to the human brain, but dangerously so.
What’s number one doesn’t necessarily say it’s “better” than number two or of any other number in the list. It’s highly subjective, sometimes even a bit random -wink wink, Nassim Taleb- and the value of each book always depends on your particular situation.
One thing is for sure though: any heavily underrated book in this list is a fantastic book and it has the potential to make you a better person.