Feminine & Powerful At The Same Time: Here's HowBeing feminine and powerful is not easy.
Power and femininity are not at the opposite end of the spectrum.
Yet, they don't exactly overlap either.
And it's sometimes difficult to combine the two.
Many women, possibly most women, fail at combining charm and femininity with power.
And that can cost them dearly, both in terms of actual overall power, and in terms of life's fulfillment.
When some women in power position (or running for power positions) err too much on the side of aggression and leave behind femininity, and charm, they can appear "gender-deviant" (such an ugly expression, BTW).
When that happens, they receive plenty of (really) nasty criticism and become disliked across the board (men are nastier, but women dislike them as well).
At that point, inborn psychological defenses kick in and the defensive walls go up.
When that happens, a radicalization often takes place.
The powerful women lash out, attack back, and blame others in an effort to preserve their ego and defend their and self-esteem (just try to check Hillary Clinton's reasons of why she lost).
It's indeed always easier to blame others than to look at our own faults.
Especially in these cases, where admitting fault would mean admitting we're doing poorly at an identity level.
Admitting that "they are not feminine enough" would be disastrous for any woman's ego indeed, and almost nobody is ready to accept it.
It's understandable but it's not the best way to go.
In the case of women in power positions, the culprit then often ends up being:
-scared men (who cannot handle strong women)
-people clinging to old concepts of gender (while promoting the lie that genders are pretty much the same)
-other jealous women
Now: for sure some of that actually applies.
For example, it's indeed very likely that there is also an element of entrenched male interest in keeping women away from power positions.
However, there are also plenty of examples of women in power positions who effectively manage to combine power with charm and femininity.
And they show that, albeit not easy, it is possible.
This video shows two examples of women who fail at marrying power with charm and femininity.
And the example of one woman who successfully managed to act forcefully and warmly at the same time, appearing powerful and feminine at the same time.
Full article: https://thepowermoves.com/effective-female-leadership/
Great example of female leadership
Elon Musk Social Skills: Idiot, Awkward or Genius?This is an analysis of Elon Musk emotional intelligence.
Particularly when it comes to:
-Relationships (Talulah Riley and Elon Musk)
-Social skills (social awkwardness)
-Leadership (both romantically and socially)
But the video gives you an overall overview of Elon Musk difficulties when it comes to social interactions and people skills.
Both acting and relating to the people around. It's just not a question of "being too nice though", Musk seems to have deep issues understanding people and social settings.
Somebody speculated Elon Musk might be autistic.
I don't know about that and I'm not going to make any diagnosis. But for sure he is socially challenged and shows a very poor behavior both understanding people and dealing with people.
In his personal relationship, that has cost Elon Musk heavily and left him vulnerable to some nasty power games (as shown in this video as well).
Sadly, if you lack in basic social understanding, you easily become the target -and victim- of the many unscrupulous people in this world (as Machiavelli said: "a good person is bound to be ruined among the great number of people who are not good").
How Trump Dominated Hillary Clinton (Debate Analysis)Trump dominated Hillary Clinton in the debates.
Sure, many consider them kind of 50-50.
But if you take into account how Trump arrived into those debates and how easily it could have been for Clinton to frame Trump as a terrible president, he pretty much destroyed her.
Trump indeed was grappling with the biggest scandal to ever hit a presidential nominee.
He had his work cut out for him before the second debate started.
How he managed to successfully weather that crisis says a lot about Hillary not capitalizing on it as much as it speaks of Trump's debating skills.
Trump was visibly shaken and off his best when the sexual assault topic made its way into the debate.
But once he was left with enough room to breathe, The Donald did what The Donal does best: power moving.
Consider the situation and sniffles aside, he was brutally effective in taking charge and driving Clinton against the ropes.
On top of that defining moment culminating with "because you'd be in jail", listed are also a few more Power Moves Trump used.
P.S.: this is a full-screen re-up to fix a previous resolution mistake
How to Gain Power QUICK: The Scarface FormulaHow to Gain Power REALLY Quick?
Scarface is a movie, but Tony Montana climb to power is very realistic.
This video analyzes the secrets of Tony Montana quick ascension to power.
If you are wondering how to become powerful in the quickest way possible, Tony Montana from the movie Scarface is a great character to learn from.
Tony Montana climbed the dominance hierarchy and skyrocketed to the top by virtue of his nature and character.
This video explains exactly what are the traits that allow men to climb the power ladder.
Most quick ascensions to power though come with great risk.
Tony Montana in the specific is driven by a dark side that includes a feeling of latent inferiority and the need of proving himself.
That leaves him partly controlled by his dark side and allows his manipulative wife to control him.
Pay particular attention to how Elvira uses his thumbscrews to lower his self-esteem and position herself as the prize of the relationship.
She either insinuates or tells him directly:
-You are dumb (VS: I'm smart)
-You are a foul-mouthed peasant (VS: I'm classy)
-You're a spick (VS: I'm white)
They all work incredibly well in making Elvira the leader of the relationship and the one with the most power.
Quite something if you consider how dominant, rich and powerful Tony Montana has become, eh?
That again goes to show how dominance is NOT the same as power.
As usual, albeit this Scarface analysis runs at 20 minutes, this is only a quick overview
More details of this analysis the website.
And the full overview of power in the course.
All rights of the movie belong to Universal Pictures (ZEFR).
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Verbal Submissiveness: Don't Talk Like ThisVerbal submission deals with the words and tonality that convey submissivness, fear, uncertainty and insecurity.
This is the last video of a 4-video mini series on social dynamics.
I need to make one important note on this video: the words "if not, that's the door" are an example of tonality, NOT on words you should use.
That's an example of a seemingly powerful thing to say but, most of the times, it's actually very weak.
It's an example of "I reject you first so you can't hurt me".
Always be watchful of people who recommend very aggressive "my way or the highway" approaches: they are often hiding deep insecurities.
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These Submissive Signs Make You Look WeakSubmissive behavior is not always and necessarily weak.
Sometimes it's only natural in life that we will have a subordinate position and it's OK (Schumer in the video, for example).
At times we can also use submission strategically to seem weaker or scared or to make our partner, friends or opponent more confident, in control or out level.
Imagine for example you are negotiating with a weaker party who doesn't trust you.
Or you prepared a booby trap for someone to step into as they charge you unknowingly.
Or imagine a man is approaching a woman at night without anybody around (ie.: a scary and potentially dangerous situation).
These are all example where looking submissive helps you and GIVE you power (and can also help the other party).
This is why there can't be no definite answer and any advice telling you "don't be submissive" is a generalization that often ends up being wrong.
And other times, you want to send out exaggerated friendly signals that look submissive but are only your first foot in the door.
However, too many, too often and too pronounced submissive behavior means that you are probably not meeting your potential, you are not staking claims to what's fair and, very possibly, that you are growing unhealthy resentment and that people are taking advantage of you.
This video shows you some typical submissive signs which you can consider removing from your repertoire (or using strategically).
As usual, I go more in depth on the website.
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Conversational Power: How to Speak With PowerHow to Speak With Power.
This video is about the signs of dominance in conversations and the verbal expressions of power.
This is the second episode of the 4 video series on the signs of dominance and submission (the previous one being "signs of dominance").
I'd like to bring to your attention one scene in particular.
Check out the conversation at minute 8:22 .
That one is particularly telling of "soft power", which is one of the most important forms of power in most social interactions.
When the girl -Carrie- says "yes" and nods, that's the equivalent of accepting his (intellectual) dominance and leadership.
That's almost the equivalent of "I love you" right there and then.
When you deliver similarly deep concepts with a similarly powerful delivery, you will often see women behave the exact same way.
That's a type of deeper social power that you do NOT see from more fast-talking, loud speaking and wide-smiling men.
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Signs of Dominance: How Social Power Looks LIkeHow does dominance look like?
This video shows you exactly how dominance and social power look like in real life.
Dominance and social power are not the same and dominance is only one element of social power.
However, for simplicity (and for SEO reasons 🙂 I have used the two interchangeably in the video and in this description.
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The Rational Male: Summary & ReviewThis video is a summary and review of The Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi's most popular book.
EDIT - Female Hypergamy:
I need to add some details I didn't put in the video.
Women DO are a bit more "ruthless" in their hypergamic pursuits than men.
But it's because women, in general, are more practical than men.
Possibly it's because of a shorter reproductive time span and the historical need of securing resources.
So their mindset is more like "do what you gotta do, or get off the pot".
Men tend to care a bit more about their word and their values.
But this is a very high level overview, with plenty of exceptions.
And I stand by the fact that both genders present hypegamy.
Some of the main takeaways from The Rational Male:
1. Sexual market value (men reach their peak later and it's less tied to beauty);
2.Relationship control (who needs the relationship the least controls the relationship);
3. "Plate theory" (a man should be entertaining more women at once).
I very much enjoyed reading The Rational Male, albeit I found a few imperfections and generalizations and I found some dating advice for men to be not exactly best in class.
While I agree with much that Rollo Tomassi says, on a few crucial aspects I also have a fundamentally different way of looking at the world (and women).
Full review: https://thepowermoves.com/the-rational-male/
The Art of Seduction: ReviewThe art of Seduction by Robert Green is a wonderful book.
It's the deepest, most cutting-edge text I have ever read when it comes to the psychology of seduction.
The downside is that albeit the theory is great, the practical applications are comparatively not as ideal.
Lots of steps overcomplicate a process that, often, can be very simple.
That being said, this is a wonderful text to learn people's psychology not just for sexual seduction, but also for social seduction.
Full summary here: https://thepowermoves.com/the-art-of-seduction-summary/
The Black Swan: Summary & ReviewThe Black Swan by Nassim Taleb is a wonderful book.
It has very low ratings and reviews and I can understand why: Taleb can come across as arrogant and conceited to some.
Yet, I feel they fail to see behind the facade.
Taleb is just most honest than most, enjoys a laugh and is not afraid of calling idiocy when he sees idiocy.
Also, albeit sometimes he can sound hypercritical, I appreciate his passion and frankness.
Most of all though, it's not just about what you think about the author, but also about the content and information.
And The Black Swan is a masterpiece to help you increase your knowledge of reality and to help you develop your critical thinking.
My favorite quote from the Nassim Taleb, which is the exact same way I feel:
This is sometimes called “fuck you money,” which, in spite of its coarseness, means that it allows you to act like a Victorian gentleman, free from slavery.
It is a psychological buffer: the capital is not so large as to make you spoiled-rich, but large enough to give you the freedom to choose a new occupation without excessive consideration of the financial rewards.
It shields you from prostituting your mind and frees you from outside authority–any outside authority
Full summary and review: https://thepowermoves.com/the-black-swan/
Is Joe Dispenza Legit? Criticism of Breaking the HabitI have to wonder whether or not Joe Dispenza is legit.
I review Breaking the Habits of Being Yourself and while I enjoyed the book and I think there is really much good to take, I also have to wonder on the less good part of it.
People who want to believe in self-healing the most are often in a position of need that makes them easy prey for the marketing of expensive products and seminars.
If from one side I wished like anybody else everything was true, anyone worth his salt in critical reviews should demand for proofs.
And I need to raise a red flag on possible danger here.
That being said, taking everything with a grain of salt, I am glad I red Breaking the Habits of Being Yourself and I will be even implementing some of his suggestions when it comes to meditations.
Full Article: https://thepowermoves.com/breaking-the-habit-of-being-yourself
Girl Wash Your Face Summary & ReviewThis is a summary & review of Girl Wash Your Face, Rachel Hollister's self-help best seller.
Full Summary: https://thepowermoves.com/girl-wash-your-face/
Lean In: Summary & Review (0/5)Lean In is Sheryl Sandberg’s view on women and society. She focuses on career, leadership and gender issues.
There are some great tips for women pursuing a high-flying career. But there is a also complete disregard of basic psychology, human nature and biology driving the behaviors she criticizes.
And I personally disagree with several of her conclusions.
This audio-summary and review of Lean In only expresses the author's opinions.
Full summary: https://thepowermoves.com/?p=15752
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