Real Love is heavy in meditation, self-compassion and Buddhist philosophy.
- You’re worthy of love
- Don’t compare yourself to others
- Love everybody
Real Love Summary
Sharon Salzberg says that to love, we first need to accept ourselves.
But worry not if you’re not there yet, because she says that self compassion is like a muscle.
Sharon Salzberg says we have a negativity bias. Such as, our brain are programmed to give more weighting to negative news than positive ones.
And it takes effort -and we should put that effort- to actually look at the bigger picture and give equal weight to the positives and the beauty of life.
To handle negative emotions the author proposes the RAIN steps, which are:
Non identify means you refuse to take it personally.
I don’t think you should lover everybody. There are plenty of nasty human beings that are not worthy of your love.
But don’t take my word for it. Just take a look at Psychopath Free and you’ll see how much pain and destruction “love everybody” can bring.
Real Love Review
I am not the right person or am not in the right period of life and frame of mind to appreciate Real Love.
I am personally more into something I can apply, more practical knowledge. Real Love is philosophical and transcendental.
This book just wasn’t for me and I cannot recommend it to people who are looking to improve their relationship in practical, science-tested ways.
But maybe there’s a lot of wisdom in there. I’d be grateful if someone could explain it to me. Because, honestly, it was a struggle to keep full attention to the audio-book.