Real Love is heavy in meditation, self compassion and Buddhist philosophy.
- You’re worthy of love
- Don’t compare yourself to others
- Love everybody
Sharon Salzberg says that to love, we first need to accept ourselves.
But worry not if you’re not there yet, because she says that self compassion is like a muscle.
Sharon Salzberg says we have a negativity bias. Such as, our brain are programmed to give more weighing to negative news than positive ones.
And it takes effort -and we should put that effort- to actually look at the bigger picture and give equal weight to the positives and the beauty of life.
To handle negative emotions the author proposes the RAIN steps, which are:
Non identify means you refuse to take it personally.
I don’t think you should lover everybody. There are plenty of nasty human beings that are not worthy of your love.
But don’t take my word for it. Just take a look at Psychopath Free and you’ll see how much pain and destruction “love everybody” can bring.
I am not the right person or am not in the right period of life and frame of mind to appreciate Real Love.
I am personally more into something I can apply, more practical knowledge. Real Love is philosophical and transcendental.
This book just wasn’t for me and I cannot recommend it to people who are looking to improve their relationship in practical, science-tested ways.
But maybe there’s a lot of wisdom in there. I’d be grateful if someone could explain it to me. Because, honestly, it was a struggle to keep full attention to the audio-book.