Sexy body language is one of the main traits for sexiness, bar none.
The real world feedback of sexy body language poses can be unbelievable for anyone who’s not accustomed to it: I had women catcalling me (a couple older cougars and inebriated ones), surreptitiously snapping my pictures in bars and even sending their girlfriends over to profess their liking (for full disclosure this last one was in Asia where I enjoyed white-man bonus points).
Let’s explore a few good sexy poses you can adopt:
#1 The Guardian of The Bar
Let the women be the months, and the Guardian your fiery mainstay sexy pose.
A few advantages:
- Takes up space and shows confidence in style;
- Shepard position: you are comfortable looking -dominant- and being looked -self-confident-;
- Perfect position to launch a convo: you’re centered, they’re orbiting around you;
Don’t overdo the “take up space” mantra: it screams overcompensation or social awkwardness and neither are sexy.
#2 The DrinkSlinger
Any time you have the chance, put the drink down. When you don’t have the chance, hold it to your side.
- You keep an open body language
- You look confident and in control
PRO TIP: Small drinks are handier, make you look bigger and say you’re confident without liquid confidence
Couple wrong ones:
#3 The TeXXXter
Unless you’re a Belieber teenager checking the latest snap from the latest androgyny popstar, try being a man instead :). Too many times our phones are used as a numbing shield: try not to use it at all.
And for the 3% of the times you actually need to use your phone, do so with an attractive pose:
Holding your phone high is great to keep your gaze and posture up but if you feel too much like “granny reading the newspaper” it’s ok to lower it a bit. Just keep in mind the main rule : BOTS -Brief and On The Side-.
PRO TIP: Only allow yourself to check phone at the urinals
# 4 Sitting Sexy
What they’re certainly not, though, is sexy guys out to socialize. Because sexy guys out to meet new people do not give their backs to the ones they wanna meet. On the contrary they show themselves openly and proudly.
This one is good if you’re sitting at the corner of the bar, turned towards the crowd:
Sexy Body Language For Men: Summary
Sexy body language poses will do wonders for you.
Albeit the examples at the beginning of the article are quite borderline, I am almost always well received by the women I approach at bars, including not rarely women being visibly nervous in my presence.
The reason why it works is because people -mostly women- will notice the attractive body language before you even approach. They will notice you, think about it, maybe even talk about it with their friends.. And then you approach. It’s a bit like a celebrity boost that you get.