7 Steps to Sleep With Thai Women (Easy Sex)

thai girl in lingerie in sexy pose

Thai girls are on your mind recently?

Maybe you just took a recent liking, or you’re planning a visit to Thailand?

And sure, the beaches are nice but do you also want to bed a few Thai beauties?

Of course, you want. And you should :).
And you have come to the right place.
Look somewhere else for temples and food. But to have sex with Thai girls, this is your guide.

hot thai girl

My name is Lucio, I have been to Thailand countless times, and albeit I don’t count… I have quite some experience with Thai girls (including Thai girls in the West by the way).

How to Sleep With Thai Girls

You have sex with Thai girls the exact same way you have sex with all other women :).
But these tips will help you to maximize your potential.

1. Understand: You’re High Sexual Market Value in Thailand

I am writing this guide from the point of view of white men.

And white men traveling to Southeast Asia enjoy a huge bump in their sexual market value.
But most foreigners will have a big SMV bump. So much so, that moving to countries like Thailand is one of the best sexual market-value hacks.
To summarize it all in simpler words: when you land in Thailand, you become more attractive.

If in your home country you’re a low-quality man, for Thai girls you are still better than the local average men. If you are average, you are the equivalent of an attractive man. And if you are a high-value man, your sexual market value goes through the roof.

There are several reasons for this, including that foreigners are perceived as:

  1. Smarter / better educated
  2. More driven
  3. More masculine / sexier (bigger boost if you got white skin)
  4. Richer

Yes, contrary to what most (bitter) Western women say, money is only one reason why white men are popular. You don’t need money to get laid in Thailand. As a matter of fact, I probably spent more money in Europe on dating than in Thailand.

For many women, white men are also a status symbol.
You will hear a few women, and this is true across East Asia as well, that have never slept with a local and proudly swear they would never do such a thing -up to you what to think about that-.

Men who fail to realize their increased value miss a lot of opportunities. Don’t do the same: act and behave like the high-SMV hunk that you are.

Limitation: Yes, you get a huge boost, but keep in mind that Thailand is one of the most popular destinations in the world. Bangkok is the number 1 most visited city in the world. So, yes, you get a major boost, but don’t be silly, and don’t go thinking that in the age of globalization, you can get a plane and become a unique exotic flower.

In Summary: you are of higher value in Thai girls’ eyes, act like it.

2. Avoid the Arrogant Trap: Treat People Well

While some foreigners are clueless about their value boost with Thai women, some get heady with it.

Jerks and first-time travelers, strong of the “white man boost” (and of the stronger currency), get even “jerker”. They go on a power trip and behave like they’re hot sh*t, like they can buy and dispose of women, and like they are owed sex.

Differentiate yourself from these fools: understand the difference between a high-quality man and a jerk.
A high-quality man is knowledgeable of his value, moves fast, and demands respect. But also respects people and women and gives her a good time.

The jerk reeks of old days gone colonialist and “White Man’s Burden” mentality. They have plenty of arrogance and conceit but little to show for it, which makes them entitled pricks. They will attract some Thai girls because arrogance can be attractive to women, but they will repel the highest quality Thai girls.

In Summary: don’t be a dick.

3. Dress Well

Most tourists in Thailand wear shorts, ugly shirts, and flip-flops.

Sure, it might be comfortable traveling like that, but if your mission is to have sex with Thai girls, then don’t be a slob and dress the part brother.

Indeed one of the reasons white men do well with Thai girls is because of the cultural dominance and the romanticized image that the locals have of the West.
Part of that image is power and income. Both are well represented by suits, ties, and well-put-together clothing.

I remember being out with a friend in Thailand who wanted to meet up with a nurse he was seeing. I was with him and his girl was somewhere else with a girlfriend. So it seemed like a good fit. Typical of Thai girls, she asked him to send them my picture.
He did.
Her reply?

His Girlfriend: Wow

My friend seemed even slightly jealous.
But there was nothing to be jealous of. I’m not a “wow” guy in the slightest. The only thing I had going on for me was an awesome white shirt in a world of ugly T-shirts.

In Summary: if you want to sleep with lots of Thai girls, dress like someone who sleeps with lots of girls (ie.: well).

4. Leverage Dating Apps

Dating apps are a great way of taking advantage of your value boost and casting your net wider.

As per the point above, upload a couple of pictures where you are well dressed, ideally looking cool and powerful with a suit and tie. I met a few women who were not sure whether to meet me or some other guy and then chose me.
Always the curious and investigative type that I am, I asked to see the profiles (and conversations) of those guys. I was shocked at how hunk-like some of them were. Rugby players, big gym types, and plainly handsome men.
But I had well-dressed pictures.

Go for something similar:

tinder picture for dating thai girls
Well dressed but with a smile so you don’t look stuck-up

Again, this is not the West.
Some Western girls will think you’re trying too hard, but it works wonders with Thai girls in Thailand.

In your description, avoid saying crap like “traveler”,  “adventurer” or “globe-trotter”. You already have “white guy” and “exotic points”, you don’t need to play those games to inflate your value. You will look try-hard by stressing your “lover” qualities.

Write instead something like:

“busy man who prefers a coffee or drink to long chats :)”.

This way, without coming across as abrasive, you make it clear you’re not into long chats and prefer meeting in person.

In Summary: to have sex with lots of Thai girls, take pictures in good clothes, and cast your net wide with dating apps.

5. Move Fast

One of the advantages that foreign men enjoy in Thailand is that they are almost automatically considered sexier than local men.

When it comes to providers, friends, or lovers, it’s far easier for you to be considered a fast-moving lover.

That means, in practice, that you can allow yourself to move faster.
And that’s exactly one of the reasons why money often doesn’t even come into the picture (and why guys who want to sleep with lots of Thai girls should probably not spend money at all).

Here is a good approach:

  1. Check-in advance your hotel doesn’t stop guests (or get an Airbnb)
  2. Meet close to your hotel
  3. Propose you grab a drink and go back to the pool
  4. Go to your room instead (say nothing, most of them know what’s up)
  5. Start kissing their neck
  6. Move to the bed

If you prefer instead finding a long-term girlfriend, read this post:

In Summary: meet up, and aim to go straight to your place.

6. Don’t Spend (Too Much) Money

Daniel Pink, the author of Drive, explains what money does to relationships.
To paraphrase, the moment you exchange money you remove people’s intrinsic motivation to do things with you and make it a colder, venal business transaction.

It’s not so different in dating.
If you spend money on Thai girls, you move from a sexy foreigner to a well-off foreigner who has to bankroll them.
Avoid it. Cut off the women who ask you for stuff and stick with the women who like you for who you are. After you got together, then you can feel free to also invite them out if you want.

Exception: if you are very rich or can spend freely without a care. Then that can be very attractive and dominant and feel free to go down that road.

In Summary: don’t make it about the money, make it about the sex (and emotional connection).

7. Prioritize Ruthlessly On DTF Girls

DTF stands for “Down to F*ck”.

As per any country you travel to, you will probably stumble upon a few time wasters and a few Thai girls who are in for the “gifts” -usually some makeup set-.

And now we go back to the question of value here: if you take full advantage of your high-value status, you have lots of options.
And the advantage of having lots of options is that you don’t need to put up with no-delay games, investment requests, “chase me” games, and other BS.
Simply next the gold diggers and time wasters.

In Summary: to sleep with Thai girls, ruthlessly cut through the time-wasters to focus solely on the (many) ones who want to sleep with you.

sexy thai girl

Thai Girls Personalities

This is how Thai girls tend to be:

  • Physically attractive

Well, of course, this one depends on personality and tastes.

Somewhat, I would probably place Thai girls below Koreans -who enjoy bigger bosoms- and Kazakh -who enjoy the mix of high Mongolian cheekbones and white Russian beauty-.
But above Japanese and Chinese -albeit recently I’m getting more into Chinese-.

  • Thai girls tend to be flat (flat chest, flat ass)

Locker-room talk mode on: I always thought of myself as more of an ass guy.

However, you fully realize how important breasts are when you find yourself with a really flat-chested woman. Completely flat is totally different than small breasts. It’s a strange, androgynous feeling.

And Thai girls, often thin, also have a higher incidence of flat chests than other nationalities. Some of them keep a bra anyway so you might miss on it.

And, like many other Asian women, the incidence of flat asses is far higher than among white women and, obviously, than among black women.

picture of a thai girl from the sideNot my type. But I know some guys who like it

  • Thai girls tend to be low-quality

PC mode off: Thai women tends to be low-quality girls.

Thai girls tend not to be particularly well-learned and driven.
Since they are traditional and at the service of their men, they place low value on achievement and personal development.

Their English is also extremely poor.
A few times I met a woman from online dating only to find out she was talking through a translator and could not speak English.
I attended one of the best Toastmasters in Bangkok and even there I couldn’t find a single girl with good English -including one who had lived in the US for years:S-.

That will adversely impact communication and bonding.

Of course, please, never forget this is a vast generalization and that in dating, as for most things in life, exceptions abound.

  • Thai girls tend to be nurturing and traditional 

Thai girls have very traditional roles and they see themselves as supporters of the male figure. It won’t be a rare occurrence that Thai girls will offer to cook you food or bring you food from their places.

thai girl datingIt’s common for Thai women to give and invest early on in the relationship

  • Thai girls tend to be submissive in bed

There is a bit of a cliche that Asian women are more submissive.

Well, as it’s often the case, cliches have a backdrop of reality in them. And Thai girls in bed tend to be more submissive -and passive-.
To put it with the words of what one Thai girl once told me “do whatever you want to me”.
LOL, I bet you now really want to get a Thai girl don’t you :D.

  • Some Thai women might seek long-term dating (so be honest)

There is this idea among some white men that Thai girls expect dating to lead to something serious.

I don’t know how if I’ve ever heard anything more stupid.
Most women are not stupid, and they know full well what’s up.

Sometimes you will meet a more traditional girl though and, because of less-than-ideal verbal communication, a misunderstanding might happen.
So if you don’t want anything stable, I recommend you avoid chatting with them too much or staying in contact too often after sex.

As a matter of fact, it can be a good idea to actually show that you’re not long-term material.
You can hint at it, say it straight up, talk about your travel plans, or even be open about your other Tinder and Line chats.
They will see it and understand:

thai girls are not clingy text
She saw my texts and understood it was a one-time thing

But this shouldn’t be an issue. When you’re not too available, women will understand without having to have any “conversation”.
Sometimes in my life, I have had some great connections and kept in touch against my better judgment (one more example here), and that wasn’t a great idea.
The truth is that it’s almost impossible to have a “special connection” with a woman you have sex with and keep it “as friends”. One of you is bound to fall and want to do more.
When you’re in doubt, be clear (and you’ll find out most of the time they know what’s up):

Thai girls dating text
“I know in first time when meet you at condo” LOL
  • Thai girls are smartphones (and pictures) addicts

Well, these days you’d be hard-pressed in finding any girl -or anyone really- who’s not addicted to their smartphones. I am as well in many ways.

Yet, Thai girls are also addicted to pictures. If you get together with Thai girls, get ready to delete a lot of meaningless selfies, food pics, “just woke up” bed pictures, and lots of Line GIFs (Line is the local Whatsapp BTW and it’s much better).

A good way to stop it is to tell them you’d prefer their pictures “without clothes”, and hopefully they’ll get the message you’re not a picture guy.

  • Thai women are petite and thin

There are few women in Thailand who are fat.
Even women on the plumber side, or simply with some good meat around their bones, will consider themselves “fat”.

The Thai girls are awesome, both in personality and body, including great chest and booties. And yet they consider themselves as fat and “too fat for Thai guys”.
Looks like Thai guys really like thin :).

These attractive Thai women convincingly called themselves “fat”

Thai Girls: Easy, or Wife Materials?

The answer is:


Thailand and Thai girls have a reputation for “easy sex”, and for good reasons, if you’re a white tourist: you will meet plenty of girls who will quickly and easily come back to your place.

But that might be misleading: Thai girls are quite extreme in their distribution when it comes to short-term sex disposition. Indeed, as much as there are many easy-to-sleep-with women, there are also far more reserved and sexually inexperienced women than in the West.

Of course, more reserved Thai women are also more hidden: you’re not gonna meet them in bars and clubs: the girls there are either the paid pros or promiscuous party girls -often looking for foreigners-.

You need more social circles to meet more reserved and more wife-material Thai girls.
Day game is also good, but you need to be good at overcoming the strong initial resistance of more conservative and shier women.

The Downside of Meeting Thai Girls in Thailand

Thai girls are awesome and Thailand is fantastic.
But, as for anything, there are pros and cons. This is what I don’t like about traveling to Thailand:

  • Constant street harassment

Your white skin will attract not just honeys looking for money -that’s really not a problem as we’ve seen-.
But much harassment for hustlers, pimps, and anyone selling anything.

Taxi drivers will slow down asking while you’re enjoying yourself. Some will even honk at you if you refuse to look at them. And all rickshaws and tuk-tuk drivers seem to think every white man needs a lift.

And that’s not even to mention the street ladyboys:

  • Ladyboys will hustle you silly

Guys, if you are not into ladyboys, watch out.

There are many of them, and many of them are distinguishable from women. They like foreigners of course, so you end up being a big target, with some of them even lying about their transgender status.

On the plus side, if you want to understand how annoying catcalls and groups of grabbing men can be for a woman, you will find out.
If you will walk streets with lots of prostitutes -and you will- and you won’t want to punch the ladyboys reaching out for you, you got the patience of a saint.

Note: there is no hating on ladyboys here and this is not a space for hating on anybody. They can be as wonderful as anyone else. This is referring to the behavior of some of them in the streets of Thailand.

Read here how to spot ladyboys.

  • Thailand & tourists have the dynamics of a toxic relationship

Do you know the toxic dynamics in an abuser and abused relationship?

The abuser is stronger, on paper. The abused provides a facade of niceness while actually fighting back with passive aggression and underhanded maneuvering.
That’s the feeling I get in Thailand: the locals and the Thai girls are the submissive parties in the relationship while some tourists play their fantasies of male domination and feed their ego.
But behind the fake niceness of the “land of smiles”, Thailand is often ready and happy to swindle tourists.

Don’t get me wrong: I have a great time anytime I’m there, but at the end of my stay I’m also glad to move somewhere else or come back to Europe.

  • There are lots of “bad” tourists

With millions of tourists, there really is everything in Thailand.
From couples to female solo travelers to the thriving community of digital nomads in Chiang Mai.

However, there is a seedy underbelly to Thai tourism, which includes some men who treat the local population with arrogance and disdain, and some men who are only there for the low prices and prostitution. Including, sadly, underage prostitution.
Even some of the most popular massage clubs in Bangkok have obviously underage women -though they all say they’re 18. Yeah, sure-.

For example, thousands of German retirees live in Phuket and Pattaya, which is basically an open-air brothel.
Far from me to point fingers and shame-attack all men who are living a much better life than they’d have in Europe. But it’s a fact that there are also a lot of low-quality men who end up in Thailand.


All in all, Thailand is a great place.
Great weather, good people, awesome Thai girls, and lovely beaches.

To have sex with Thai girls, leverage your exotic advantage, dress well, and make your seduction process efficient (and if you so prefer, quick).

And remember: the good time must go both ways. Make it good for her too and be a respectful human being, with Thai girls as much as with any other girl.

4 thoughts on “7 Steps to Sleep With Thai Women (Easy Sex)”

  1. Very good to read, thanks for your effort,you really helped illuminate how it is there and what to expect which is great for someone who hasnt been. It seems another level above that of the philippines if you know what I mean and I like how you spelt out to guys things should be mutual as I could imagine some of the sleazy types that go there, hopefully the Thai police are good at watching out for that? Sounds interesting, I think the only thing is over time maybe the thai nasal voices could get grating? Anyway, thanks again.

    1. Lucio Buffalmano

      Thai nasal voices are soooo grating to me, Charles :).
      I think the Philippines are more extreme though. Tourism in PH is not yet at the level of Thailand, unless you go to places like Boracay. So in PH you still have second and third tier cities where people look at foreigners like you’re some alien, and people ask to take pictures sometimes. Sometimes I was laughin at myself with Eminem’s song in my ears: ” Y’all act like you never seen a white person before, jaws all on the floor… ” 🙂


    This was a very helpful reading tho, nice tips for men who likes hook up nah , you were a very good example HAHAHAHA! i hope you find someone in the near future with that kind of situation and you would share it with us. LOL!

    1. Lucio Buffalmano

      I didn’t get the point of your message. Except that it comes across as rather passive-aggressive. If you have a criticism to make, make it. If not, hiding behind fake laughter can make you come across as bitter and immature.

      P.S.: In case you didn’t realize, this post IS about hooking-up with Thai girls, and it’s hooking-up between mutually consenting adults who are both enjoying the process.

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