The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes tells the story of 2015, the year in which she changed her life for the better.
- Say yes to what scares you
- Say yes to play time
- Say no to everything which is preventing you to do what you want to say yes to
Shonad Rhimes eventually realized that her workaholics ways had isolated her from the world and made her deeply unhappy.
Year of Yes is the story of her changes.
Yes to What Scares You
Say yes to the things that scares you. In Shonda’s case it was the social life, spotlight and recognition she had been avoiding for all her life.
Yes to Compliments
Shonda was too shy to fully embrace compliments and to fully celebrate success. But compliments and successes are a joy of life we should embrace, not something we must shy away from.
Yes to Playtime
Shonda Rhimes was all about work, work, work. Weekends were work time and an opportunity to get ahead.
That brought to a very unhappy place. In the Year of Yes she made it a rule instead of keeping Saturdays and Sundays off for family and playtime.
Dancing in front of a mirror, playing on the floor with her children
Be Your Unique You
Rhimes encourages the reader to stop trying to comparing yourself and be someone else and find your own paths instead. This reminded a bit of The Four Agreements.
Say No to Say Yes
Similar to the message of the The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Shonda say that to say yes to the thing that really matters in your life, you also have to say no to everything that doesn’t enrich you.
Real Life Applications
If you’re workaholic and sacrificing family and playtime, you might reach a point of deep unhappiness. Consider if work is really giving you everything you need or if you should make some more time for playtime and human connection
It drags, repeats and goes off lengthy tangents at times.
The behind the scene vulnerability
Shonda opens up and it’s always good to see that any successful person has the same fears and worries as anyone else.
Year of Yes is partly autobiographical and partly self help book.
I could relate to the introvert and even the shy part of Year of Yes. I did found it a bit too much on the feminist-complaining side though, with a bit too many references to “non-white”, “non male” for me.
You are who you are, it would be great if people could embrace it without making it sound as a them VS us.