Wild is the story of Cheryl Strayed’s hike. Her hike was a way to escape from a life which was falling apart as she sought to find herself again.
When her mother is diagnosed with cancer and dies, Cheryl Strayed’s life is thrown upside down.
She used to be wildly in love with her husband, and 19 and 21, respectively, they thought they had to do something wild to demonstrate her love. And that was, getting married.
But they didn’t think of themselves as “married” and they had no intention of settling down. They moved together to Dublin and then to London, were they were so destitute they would roam the street looking for coins.
It reminded me a bit of my relationship coming out of the crazy Erasmus partying time, where one of my motivation to stay together was to keep that wild flame live.
She cheats on her husband three times in a row, in short succession. It transpires in her book that the cheating was the overreaction to her life difficulties and a consequence of low self-esteem.
She says it must feel similar to people cutting themselves -who are often borderline personalities BTW-.
Cheryl Strayed said that she loved her husband, yet she felt the need to be alone.
This makes me think she might be an avoidand attachment type. If her husband is an anxious attachment type, then together they would form a toxic relationship going by the name of “anxious avoidant trap“.
Eventually, she decides that her marriage is over and divorces. It’s not an easy decision, she talks about her husband as her best friend even after the two are separated.
She says of her urge to contact him, but she resists.
Along the trail she will also often think of him, but she keeps on going.
Real Life Applications
I think the major real life applications are two:
- Keep a strong human support around you: it’s the best medicine in moments of crisis
- You can always leave everything and start on a journey. And maybe, sometimes, you should
No cons really, I didn’t finish it because I’m looking for different types of books these days and Wild didn’t fit the bill.
I definitely think I will get back to it.
Maybe while I’ll be doing my own crazy trail.
Wild is a honest book: Cheryl doesn’t hide her vulnerable self.
The idea of leaving on a wild trip to find oneself is fascinating.
I have done 3 interrails, slept on a sidewalk and left my job to travel Asia for 6 months.
But I’m too busy with work now to enjoy reading about someone else’s trip.
Overall, Cheryl Strayed came across to me as a lost woman on freefall during the beginning of the book.
As I read about her affairs, heroin and as if they were happening to her, I couldn’t help but think that I wasn’t going to learn much from such a low value woman.
Sure I was being judgmental, but I do am very judmental if that helps me allocate my time better.
Wild will is not the type of book with the type of personalities I am seeking to learn from at the moment.
It’s a fascinating story nonetheless. Even from a psychological point of view.
Yet, it was too long in the end.
I stopped reading it because I wasn’t learning much and I wasn’t being very entertained either.
And I am not saying that Wild is not entertaining: it is. I’m simply not feeling accomplished when I consume entertainment.
And since I wasn’t learning and growing much with Wild, I decided to abort it.