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Answering subjective questions in a way that doesn't make the other person a judge
I am sure many of you have noticed during conversations that people ask subjective questions like "are you good at X, Y, etc?" Now there are various ways of answering this question. How you answer might make the conversation an equal investment from both sides with no judge role or it can end up with you giving the other person a position of power by granting him/her the judge role.
Ex-
Person A - Are you good at cooking?
You (Reply 1) - I am very good / bad / best.
You (Reply 2) - I have been doing it since many years, have XYZ Qualifications, etc.
Answering like Reply 1 and Reply 2 as above will make it seem like you are trying to gain there approval.
Instead whenever you hear a subjective question find a way to turn it back on them and ask what interests them in that.
Ex -
You (Reply 3) - what interests you in cooking?
Now Reply 3 will lead to you both having a conversation where you can share experiences without having a judge role.
I learned this trick with time and earlier when I didn't answer subjective questions like this the other person got a judge role.
OFF -TOPIC
these types of questions are many times used in dating scenes and this will help you retain power.
