Apologising Power Move
Hi, I encountered a situation where I was speaking with a girl and her friend was not playing ball, and later the friend told me this
Friend : I'm sorry about earlier, I was rude to you. and you couldn't spend a lot of time with her because I had to leave.(The girl invariably couldn't leave her friend alone so had to leave, all this was due to logistical problem)
Me: Were you rude to me? I didn't notice it. The girl and I can meet some other time, no problem.
I genuinely didn't think she was being rude to me or anything, so my reply was in part a reflection of that and as well as a response to a move which if I had replied it's alright or it' okay, would have dis-empowered me. Do you think my response was adequate or was it inadequate based on the above snippet of conversation?
Thank you.
You did fine.
May have also surfaced it:
You: that's not cool. When were you rude
Or checked it anyway:
You: if you were rude, don't do it anymore. But I truly didn't notice
This is better because:
- You check the power move even in the hypothetical, non-existing scenario
- In case she really thought she was rude, you enforce boundaries and "put her back in her place"
- You're the kind of guy who takes action on diresepct, but that isn't concerned about the small stuff (as you didn't even notice)
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on December 3, 2022, 11:10 am
You: if you were rude, don't do it anymore. But I truly didn't notice
This is better because:
- You check the power move even in the hypothetical, non-existing scenario
- In case she really thought she was rude, you enforce boundaries and "put her back in her place"
- You're the kind of guy who takes action on diresepct, but that isn't concerned about the small stuff (as you didn't even notice)
I think this is awesome, and PU worthy.
Hi Lucio,
I felt my answer was not optimal, cause I didn't address the hypothetical rudeness, but these answers nail it.
May have also surfaced it:
You: that's not cool. When were you rude
Thank you