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#1 · October 31, 2021, 4:55 pm

Quote from Ali Scarlett on October 31, 2021, 4:55 pm
Emotional Independence On Social Media
Quote: “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” – Vernon Howard
Mark Manson in The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck mentions that you can't not care. You have to care about something. And, that means that if you're looking for emotional independence, you can't just stop caring about what others think about you.
That's why Ultimate Power teaches emotional independence by only caring about your own approval. Yet, Lucio also mentions that there are exceptions when someone has actual, formal authority over you. In those cases, if you respect them, it's OK to allow them to dispense the emotional rewards of a positive judge.
I think that the greatest challenge in maintaining one's emotional independence typically comes in cases of social media. Especially, on Instagram, a social platform geared toward showcasing one's strengths and "success" to gain social acceptance. In an (albeit inauthentic) environment like that, a flood of negative comments can still weaken an antifragile ego and growth attitude if one's not careful.
So, I'm beginning to lean toward the philosophy that it's OK to view the comments of unofficial judges as being written by sheep. And, you're a lion who only considers the comments of other lions as well as your own.
The turkey imaginary is often associated with low-quality behavior from an individual. But, I think of a sheep as someone who moves around and makes noise — as sheep do — without having the authority to be worth listening to. And, in my opinion, sheep must earn your mental space by first proving themselves as worth listening to before expecting you to give them your attention or (possibly) peace of mind. (At least, on these social platforms.)
I doubt a wise lion would take the counsel of sheep. And, especially, a lion who embodies the mindsets and attitudes of a TPM eagle would hardly need their approval either.
Feel free to leave your thoughts or feedback below.

Emotional Independence On Social Media

Quote: “A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” – Vernon Howard

Mark Manson in The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck mentions that you can't not care. You have to care about something. And, that means that if you're looking for emotional independence, you can't just stop caring about what others think about you.

That's why Ultimate Power teaches emotional independence by only caring about your own approval. Yet, Lucio also mentions that there are exceptions when someone has actual, formal authority over you. In those cases, if you respect them, it's OK to allow them to dispense the emotional rewards of a positive judge.

I think that the greatest challenge in maintaining one's emotional independence typically comes in cases of social media. Especially, on Instagram, a social platform geared toward showcasing one's strengths and "success" to gain social acceptance. In an (albeit inauthentic) environment like that, a flood of negative comments can still weaken an antifragile ego and growth attitude if one's not careful.

So, I'm beginning to lean toward the philosophy that it's OK to view the comments of unofficial judges as being written by sheep. And, you're a lion who only considers the comments of other lions as well as your own.

The turkey imaginary is often associated with low-quality behavior from an individual. But, I think of a sheep as someone who moves around and makes noise — as sheep do — without having the authority to be worth listening to. And, in my opinion, sheep must earn your mental space by first proving themselves as worth listening to before expecting you to give them your attention or (possibly) peace of mind. (At least, on these social platforms.)

I doubt a wise lion would take the counsel of sheep. And, especially, a lion who embodies the mindsets and attitudes of a TPM eagle would hardly need their approval either.

Feel free to leave your thoughts or feedback below.

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#2 · November 8, 2021, 8:23 pm

Update:

For all-around emotional independence (which includes emotional independence on social media), I think an "I only need my own love" mindset could be the most effective depending on where you are in your mental empowerment journey.