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Best movies to learn power dynamics
The good boss
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt13066182/
- * Bardem (Blanco) has a lot of power. Even with a lot of power (in your immediate circle; a big fish in small pond syndrome) you don't have an easy life
- Â Monogamous relationships are shit. People cheat and there's suffering
- Â Underlings will use their 'little power' and fuck you. This is very normal in socialism
- Â Dad of screw-up teen: If you don't understand power, you will never get any. And you will suffer for it.
- Â Dad of screw up teen: he tried to use the one connection to power he had (Blanco), but he got screwed.
- Â The security guy's persona is very common in spain: wants to rebel but really can't. And he is played around
- Â Having a single job is dangerous: at 50, you can be fired and you will suffer
- Â Having 2 jobs (not in the movie) doesn't help, you will never rise up with split attention
- Â screw-up boy: you will be manipulated. This is how you find lackeys
- Â Underlings support each other, the boss is always out-group, more so in ambition-less environments like Spain
- Â The Blanco boss calls his employees Family. Family my ass. The Blanco boss was in it for himself, not looking for win wins, and everyone tolerated his paternalistic thing only because they god some limited benefit from it (the 'cornudo' guy got some solace)
- Â "Alpha" guy loading trucks is not submissive to the boss. He has boundaries, knows the alpha boss is bullshitting (high social intelligence!), not necessary to be subservient. He understands power
- Â Bardem (Blanco) fails many times to use his power, even though he's well connected. Plan for this
- Â Solving the problem with the guy camping in front of you proved really hard. People in a position of no apparent power (lackey just fired) can come back at you with a big problem they manufacture out of thing air. More so in a world where the 'story' for the left won (most of the West).
- Â Blanco: Being dominated by an external goal that you don't control (the price) is trouble
- Â Blanco's life is barely under his control. He's alpha, but he fucks up a lot. Most of the time even
- Â "Familia" is a weak attempt at manipulation, and everyone sees that through
- Â Keeping power is a constant struggle, you cannot sleep at the helm
- Â Many relationships are fake. Blanco is really alone
- Â The rich 18yo hot girl is in a position of power over the alpha boss (Blanco), and she knows it.
- Â Rich kids get an education on how to understand power (!!!)
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 17, 2022, 8:21 pmVoyagers
Wow, what a movie.
It's a great movie. Thanks for the recommendation. It's exactly the kind of movies I'm looking for: power dynamics and frame control (does the alien exist and who has the alien?).
If you liked this movie, I recommend 2 others with the same emphasis on power dynamics and frame control. Of course, Godfather, etc. has the same qualities.
"Castlevania" (Netflix series)
I would recommend Castlevania in the first place because it's more mature about the power dynamics and frame control.
Cheers!
Thank you for sharing, John!
I've seen the original "Planet of The Apes" and loved it -and even one of the sequels was good-.
So good to know there is a new one now, I had missed that.
I recommend also "the Book of Bobba Fett". It's all about power dynamics. Bobba Fett is becoming the new local mob boss and has to deal with opposition.
It's not as good as the Mandalorian. However, it's still good. They actually put 2 episodes of the Mandalorian inside the series.
Now I can also say why the mandalorian is a good character to learn power from. He's good to learn powerful body language.
He's also very good at "Frame Resetting". Somebody says something and he starts with a new frame. It's a powerful technique as you can always then follow the other person's Frame if they insist. I think it's part of the frame control toolbox.
Thank you for sharing, John!
House of Gucci
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Not a great movie per se, with lots of cuts that just felt "off", but good for power dynamics.
A modern story of intrigue with misaligned interests, seduction (I'll even use a few scenes as examples for the women's section of Seduction University), manipulation, (false) cooperation, and betrayals.
And also the importance of high-level strategies (cover your ass approaches, and misapplying the high-level strategy of cutting off relationships but without making unnecessary enemies).
Thanks! On my list.
I recommend warmly these series: about frame control, back-stabbing, plotting, control of information, blackmail, torture, double-cross, hidden identity, alliances, betrayal, etc. All the good stuff!
Major Partagaz is a character of is very high power to learn from. This is to me the best Star Wars. Even better than the first trilogy, cinematographically speaking and in terms of storytelling. For every sci-fi fan and movie lovers as well. The dynamics between the rebellion and the Empire (cat-and-mouse) and the shades of grey in terms of morality are great. I'm not saying more as I would be spoiling.
Plenty of political scenes with power. Especially the ones with the high king. Visually stunning, not as rich as Andor in my opinion. However still top notch and worth watching.
If you watch(ed) them, let me know what you think!
Cheers!
Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult at Sarah Lawrence
The topic is manipulation.
A documentary about the real story of how a group of young people was manipulated by one person into slowly going crazy, severing their ties with friends and family, destroying their careers and lives, paying him insane amounts of money and ultimately falling totally under his control.
The documentary is stellar, in that this particular person had recorded videos and audios of him in the act of manipulating these young people. So it includes real-life footage of how far it is possible to fall down the rabbit hole and have one's life totally destroyed (in case one is unaware of what is going on and thus susceptible).
The documentary is also good in that it does not (totally) explain what was going on, but lets the viewer tie some of the loose ends. Some articles that paint the full picture and how it was all planned from the start:
- https://www.thecut.com/article/larry-ray-sarah-lawrence-students.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2021/10/larry-ray-sarah-lawrence-interviews.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2022/03/larry-ray-trial-facts.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/larry-ray-sarah-lawrence-trial.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2022/03/larry-ray-courtroom-emergency.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2022/04/larry-ray-trial-guilty.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2023/01/larry-ray-sarah-lawrence-prison.html
- https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2020/02/larry-ray-sarah-lawrence-kids-update.html
Thank you for this, Bel!
I don't allow myself much time for movies these days (<--- this could be a one-up power move in certain situations to same "I'm busier / more driven than you", so a more power-protecting way is to say "I'm not watching many movies these days, but..."), but if they had this on my next long-haul flight, it would make my day :).
Quote from Bel on February 17, 2023, 11:37 am(...) how far it is possible to fall down the rabbit hole and have one's life totally destroyed (in case one is unaware of what is going on and thus susceptible).
IÂ agree with you on the "in case".
While everything is possible, personally I believe that some personalities are more likely to fall for it, and many are a lot more naturally resistant.
Skeptics and critical thinkers are more naturally resistant.
And then the knowledge that one accrues with power dynamics also works as a natural defense.
On the other hand, I'd say most people may be shocked at how many can fall for it.
To me, falling for most of the recent marketers and influencers is the antichambers of cults.
If you follow, defend, buy, trust, or believe in the likes of Grant Cardone, Andrew Tatek, Dan Lok, etc., if you're just one away from falling for cults.
And there are many who believe and trust the aforementioned gurus.
