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Brainstorming Examples of Overpowering Dominance and High Power Behaviour
Carrying over from the thread on the scene where Bane puts his hand on the businessman's shoulder,
- Overpowering dominance - often breaking rapport
Obviously sometimes the same behavior can be overpowering and rapport-breaking in a situation, but totally OK in another.
This reminds me of this video:
But last-minute resistance is a dynamic of its own.
- High-power behavior
- Dominance that is not rapport-breaking
- Behavior that is generally high-status / high-quality / high-confidence independently of dominance level
I have found voice to be very interesting.
I like this investment banker's high-power behaviour:
He has the been-there-and-done that attitude.
Feels calm and grounded.
He's also teaching about the people skill side of investment banking.
He explains it in a simple, no-nonsense way.
I think transactional lawyers (corporate lawyers) and investment bankers get involved in complex interpersonal situations because you have to represent a company to negotiate with another company. This involves a lot of politics.
Any good real-life example helps.
I think there's already quite some material in PU, so each of these categories should already have several examples.
I'm also thinking better how to structure in terms of conceptual categories.
Including the names for each.
Maybe "value-taking dominant" is better than overpowering dominant.
For example:
- High-power
- Dominant
- high-quality dominant
- value-taking dominant
And the new concept of "power calibration / fair-value power" is also part of this.
I do think there's plenty of examples in Power University as you mentioned.
Maybe we should mix this with frame control.
Dominance from a win-win frame is value-adding.
Examples
- Seduction
- Making a sale happen or closing a deal in more general terms
- Facilitating an event as the host
Dominance from a win-lose frame is value-taking.
Examples
- Unnecessary frame imposing
- Dominantly tasking someone to do something he doesn't want to do for your own benefit
I will add any examples here that I think will be useful.
On a separate note, I'm working on good examples of starting conversations.
Searching YouTube.
Whether interviews, events, etc.
I think a lot of resources talk about how to start conversations but not enough real-life examples are given too.
There may be some overlap.
Because starting a conversation dominantly but warmly can help to break the ice.
Quote from Matthew Whitewood on August 27, 2021, 9:20 pmMaybe we should mix this with frame control.
Dominance from a win-win frame is value-adding.
Examples
- Seduction
- Making a sale happen or closing a deal in more general terms
- Facilitating an event as the host
Dominance from a win-lose frame is value-taking.
Examples
- Unnecessary frame imposing
- Dominantly tasking someone to do something he doesn't want to do for your own benefit
I will add any examples here that I think will be useful.
Yes, that's a good point.
