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Chasing more to seduce girl.
Cheers guys.
A girl from my grade does show signals of possible interest while talking, but doesn't say hello unless I say it first, nor does she initiate conv. As I point in the end of the post I'm not sure about whether or not I should chase a bit more.
Those signals of interest are:
- Keeping the conversation going.
- Laughs at my "not so funny" comments, jokes and teases.
- Possibly changes her opinion to adapt to mine.
Her: I prefer something more steady living a calm life not traveling around the world that much.
PD: I prefer traveling around the world and living in a different place every now and then.
Her: well I could change opinions with time, I don't know.
(This could simply be that she's submissive)
- Keeps talking for quite some time after we've arrived to a place in which we have to go different ways.
- Looks at me when she doesn't know what to do.
A few times saw her but didn't say anything to her, I believe she probably saw me too, since our eyes didn't met it could be that she's shy, or, that she isn't actually that interested, but that's not the point here. A bit later I talked to her to ask how did her test go (we had an exam today), since she hadn't passed she couldn't do the following exam so I offered to send her screenshots of the exam activities (we do it online).
The thing here is that I have doubts here about whether to chase a bit more or not, the two times I went and talked to her I didn't feel disempowered so it could be that: I come across as higher power and since she shows signals of interest I end up power positive or little power negative.
The question is:
Do you think that in this case I should go out of my way and talk to her even if she doesn't initiate conv first, or would that be chasing too hard?
Cheers.
P.S:
Regarding the screenshots, since she told me "Yes, send them to me, please", she'll have to be the one to ask for them tomorrow since I don't have her number, nor I plan on chasing a lot like a low status loser.
Seems clear to me that there’s a high probability she likes you.
Some general pointers:
- as a general principle, a woman expects you as a man to be the one who escalates the relationship to the next level (be it approaching, asking for the number, asking out, kissing, etc.);
- what you mention as “chasing” is not chasing in the context of dating: approaching, striking up a conversation, asking for a number is not “chasing”, more like letting your interest be known and seeing if there’s reciprocation;
- the end game, in abstract (that is, barring situations where there could be social repercussions from failed or bad approaches) is to reach a point where you don’t “care” if your approach will be welcomed or not, you just put yourself out there (without exaggerating) to see if she reciprocates;
- as to your specific situation, only you can decide if you’re at the level where you can afford to pursue a girl in your school and accept the possibility that the escalation fails due to a potential mistake or her changing idea, and have it not bother you;
- If not, the guideline of starting to approach in places far from your current place is a good one.
- Looks at me when she doesn't know what to do.
She wants you to lead!
She seems to be responding positively to you. So it doesn't come across as chasing to me.
She shared something interesting here:
Her: I prefer something more steady living a calm life not traveling around the world that much.
PD: I prefer traveling around the world and living in a different place every now and then.
Her: well I could change opinions with time, I don't know.
Here you could vibe a bit and maybe bring her somewhere later:
PD: So the zen-life. Green tea and rainy days.
Then maybe bring up your favourite cafe:
PD: I know a cafe. Fantastic matcha.
Then bring her there or exchange contacts.
Quote from Bel on October 26, 2023, 8:35 pmSeems clear to me that there’s a high probability she likes you.
Some general pointers:
- as a general principle, a woman expects you as a man to be the one who escalates the relationship to the next level (be it approaching, asking for the number, asking out, kissing, etc.);
- what you mention as “chasing” is not chasing in the context of dating: approaching, striking up a conversation, asking for a number is not “chasing”, more like letting your interest be known and seeing if there’s reciprocation;
- the end game, in abstract (that is, barring situations where there could be social repercussions from failed or bad approaches) is to reach a point where you don’t “care” if your approach will be welcomed or not, you just put yourself out there (without exaggerating) to see if she reciprocates;
- as to your specific situation, only you can decide if you’re at the level where you can afford to pursue a girl in your school and accept the possibility that the escalation fails due to a potential mistake or her changing idea, and have it not bother you;
- If not, the guideline of starting to approach in places far from your current place is a good one.
Thanks Bel.
Alright, will talk with her if I see her tomorrow, even if she doesn't start conv. If she's with her friends it's also a good opportunity to showcase social and power skills. If she reciprocates cool, if not, .... next.
About approaching, I usually go for a walk in the beach, it's not unusual to see girls taking walks there too, seems like a good place to start making approaches. Direct approaches are out of question in college, so more natural/less direct ones are the key there. Still, approaching women in college gives me the same vibes as approaching women in clubs.
Quote from Matthew Whitewood on October 26, 2023, 8:56 pm
- Looks at me when she doesn't know what to do.
She wants you to lead!
She seems to be responding positively to you. So it doesn't come across as chasing to me.
She shared something interesting here:
Her: I prefer something more steady living a calm life not traveling around the world that much.
PD: I prefer traveling around the world and living in a different place every now and then.
Her: well I could change opinions with time, I don't know.
Here you could vibe a bit and maybe bring her somewhere later:
PD: So the zen-life. Green tea and rainy days.
Then maybe bring up your favourite cafe:
PD: I know a cafe. Fantastic matcha.
Then bring her there or exchange contacts.
Thanks Matthew.
Yeah, I think it's a cool way to redirect the conversation to get her number.
I was thinking to exchange contacts tomorrow if things go well, that is, if I can gain enough power to pull it off without ruining the seduction, she's submissive and feminine so I don't think it'll be hard. Being higher value also helps.
She wants you to lead!
Will lead her the gentleman's way then 🙂.
Cheers.
Hey, Power Duck! 1+ do Bel's and Matthew's advices
Quote from Power Duck on October 26, 2023, 10:54 pmYeah, I think it's a cool way to redirect the conversation to get her number.
Here I'd suggest you to interpret Matthew's advice slightly differently: not as a redirection to get her number - which frames the number as the end goal and the café as an "excuse" to get it - but as gauging her interest for an actual coffee or tea (Or even a walk on the beach. I loved this when I was around your age, because walks on the beach are cheap romantic :D ). Then the number is a consequence, so that you can arrange the logistics. I recommend seeing the number just as a means to an end.
Also (but this is my personal take) I would frame this process in my mind as “attracting” a woman rather than “seducing” her.
It’s a slight difference, but it’s mostly for self-signaling reasons.
To me “seducing” implies presenting a facade to obtain a result.
”Attracting” on the other hand means developing your man qualities more and more, to the point where you won’t have to “do” anything. You’ll just be what she wants.
