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Creating a High Value Woman

#1 · November 7, 2019, 2:13 am

Thanks for the course - I am thoroughly enjoying it and trying to apply bits and pieces to my every day life.

Obviously there is the old adage of "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink", but is there any value in investing time to help a woman break her low quality habits and develop high quality ones?

Mentioned in the "High Value Woman" article, as long as she has a Growth Mindset, is there hope in challenging her on her bad habits and helping her develop new ones? Or should we men always simply be on the hunt for women that already posses those high quality traits? If we should challenge them, how much time do we invest for them to turn it around?

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#2 · November 8, 2019, 10:45 am

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on November 8, 2019, 10:45 am
Thanks mate!
It's going to be further upgraded and improved (hopefully) by the end of the month.
To answer your question, yeah, there can a return on investment, so to speak.
However, a few conditions have to bet:
There must be raw material to work on
She must be willing to
Personally, I believe the second one is even more important.
Let's see a few examples:
Not Worth Investing: Does Not Want To Move Forward
A good example is an otherwise very girl I was with once... Who didn't shave the hair on her legs.
I mentioned it to to her not so much for me, but for her. I was traveling and wasn't going to see her again, so had no stake on her choice.
Her answer was that "she was never going to do it, because if a man liked her, she must have liked her just like she was".
That's one of the worst kind of entitlement mentality, and it's pointless to invest time and energy on anyone with that attitude.
Not Worth Investing: Sees The Battle Instead of The Opportunity
In the course I mention that I sometimes ask women if they'd like me to fix their English.
And I say that how they reply tells me a lot about where we stand... And about their psychological make up.
An emphatic "yes" signals eagerness to learn and improve, and it's a strong positive sign for me.
However, a few women see correction as a for of intellectual dominance and would rather keep doing mistakes than being corrected. These women tend to a fixed mindset, improve little, and tend to make for poor partners because they see the relationship more in terms of "who's the one up" than as a collaborative endeavor.
Worth Investing: Smart & Driven, Just Didn't Have The Chance
A typical example is a driven and smart woman who comes from a poor background. Poor not just or exclusively in terms of resources, but in terms of culture and mindsets.
However, if she is driven and motivated, then she will appreciate the help and make strides in her development.
Worth Investing: Recognizes A Good Opportunity And Strives to Catch Up
Finally, there is a fourth kind of woman.
That's the type of woman who sees you working and taking care of yourself, and wants to do the same to be more at your level and to be more in sync with you and your personality.
The effort they make on themselves is also an effort they make for you -and for the relationship-, and those types of women also tend to make for great long term partners.

Thanks mate!

It's going to be further upgraded and improved (hopefully) by the end of the month.

To answer your question, yeah, there can a return on investment, so to speak.
However, a few conditions have to bet:

There must be raw material to work on
She must be willing to

Personally, I believe the second one is even more important.
Let's see a few examples:

Not Worth Investing: Does Not Want To Move Forward

A good example is an otherwise very girl I was with once... Who didn't shave the hair on her legs.

I mentioned it to to her not so much for me, but for her. I was traveling and wasn't going to see her again, so had no stake on her choice.

Her answer was that "she was never going to do it, because if a man liked her, she must have liked her just like she was".
That's one of the worst kind of entitlement mentality, and it's pointless to invest time and energy on anyone with that attitude.

Not Worth Investing: Sees The Battle Instead of The Opportunity

In the course I mention that I sometimes ask women if they'd like me to fix their English.
And I say that how they reply tells me a lot about where we stand... And about their psychological make up.

An emphatic "yes" signals eagerness to learn and improve, and it's a strong positive sign for me.

However, a few women see correction as a for of intellectual dominance and would rather keep doing mistakes than being corrected. These women tend to a fixed mindset, improve little, and tend to make for poor partners because they see the relationship more in terms of "who's the one up" than as a collaborative endeavor.

Worth Investing: Smart & Driven, Just Didn't Have The Chance

A typical example is a driven and smart woman who comes from a poor background. Poor not just or exclusively in terms of resources, but in terms of culture and mindsets.
However, if she is driven and motivated, then she will appreciate the help and make strides in her development.

Worth Investing: Recognizes A Good Opportunity And Strives to Catch Up

Finally, there is a fourth kind of woman.

That's the type of woman who sees you working and taking care of yourself, and wants to do the same to be more at your level and to be more in sync with you and your personality.

The effort they make on themselves is also an effort they make for you -and for the relationship-, and those types of women also tend to make for great long term partners.

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#3 · December 19, 2019, 6:44 pm

I’ve always been high value and attracted high value men without making an effort- naturally. I was just blindsided about building a successful career and fell into the feminist trap. I’ve realised things need to change. I need to work on aspects of myself. Imagine how much more high value I would be after this? Your content is invaluable!

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