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 turn it into a micro-lesson (little pun there) for Power University.

Hahaha! Definitely!

I was in such a similar situation. There was this office joker who had been pulling me quite some time. Then once I lost my cool and we had a showdown. I had since stopped talking to him and this went on for months until we made peace. Until then most office guys thought I was the patsy and kept entertaining him till he came for them. Reading the article made me realize my mistakes and the importance of setting boundaries.

@Lucio sir, also I did notice that being sarcastic tends to deflect these attacks. I know in one of your other lessons on dealing with aggressors you cautioned against this strategy, what would you say here?


  • Showdowns

A showdown is fair game with the very worst individuals who truly don't know how to behave any better.

It should be a last resort, though.

  • Sarcasm

It can work, but I don't recommend it as your go-to solution.

You got PU, right?
When there is a lesson and a free article, always go for the lesson, it's deeper and i explain there why it's not the optimal solution.
But, in short:

You can't fly with the eagles if you scratch with the turkeys

Sarcasm is covert aggression.
Ideally, you want to avoid falling for the same covert-aggressive games. It hinders your development as an assertive, honest-talking straight shooter.

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Lucio, I am in a big mess and I want to lean heavily on your advice. My lawyer has joined hands with the opposite lawyer in my divorce case. To engage another lawyer I need his consent and also need to settle his accounts. In our country lawyer fees are not standard. How do I make sure that I don't pay too much money and yet get that consent. One thing I did is disengage myself from the matter for a few days so that my anger at his  betrayal is under control. He doesn’t suspect that I know about his betrayal. This is a life changing situation,  so depending on your advice Lucio.

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster.

Lucio, also I am meeting the lawyer on 23rd India time evening. Any advice before that, will be grateful for it.

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster.
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