Defending friends and colleagues without rescuing
turn it into a micro-lesson (little pun there) for Power University.
Hahaha! Definitely!
I was in such a similar situation. There was this office joker who had been pulling me quite some time. Then once I lost my cool and we had a showdown. I had since stopped talking to him and this went on for months until we made peace. Until then most office guys thought I was the patsy and kept entertaining him till he came for them. Reading the article made me realize my mistakes and the importance of setting boundaries.
@Lucio sir, also I did notice that being sarcastic tends to deflect these attacks. I know in one of your other lessons on dealing with aggressors you cautioned against this strategy, what would you say here?
Dan,
- Showdowns
A showdown is fair game with the very worst individuals who truly don't know how to behave any better.
It should be a last resort, though.
- Sarcasm
It can work, but I don't recommend it as your go-to solution.
You got PU, right?
When there is a lesson and a free article, always go for the lesson, it's deeper and i explain there why it's not the optimal solution.
But, in short:
You can't fly with the eagles if you scratch with the turkeys
Sarcasm is covert aggression.
Ideally, you want to avoid falling for the same covert-aggressive games. It hinders your development as an assertive, honest-talking straight shooter.
Lucio, I am in a big mess and I want to lean heavily on your advice. My lawyer has joined hands with the opposite lawyer in my divorce case. To engage another lawyer I need his consent and also need to settle his accounts. In our country lawyer fees are not standard. How do I make sure that I don't pay too much money and yet get that consent. One thing I did is disengage myself from the matter for a few days so that my anger at his betrayal is under control. He doesn’t suspect that I know about his betrayal. This is a life changing situation, so depending on your advice Lucio.
Lucio, also I am meeting the lawyer on 23rd India time evening. Any advice before that, will be grateful for it.