Brag Declaration: Declaring A Brag Allows You To Brag More
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 22, 2021, 3:10 am
We were hiking with a small group (random bragging picture below), and:
Does saying (random bragging picture below) allow you to brag more?
For example,
Matthew: Casually bragging here. I travelled the seven seas before I was twenty.
I remembered there was a similar technique when doing something potentially more socially unacceptable.
This may potentially offensive.
(Say the politically incorrect thing)
Because now when people point out what you have done, you can say that you have warned them in advance.
Great catch, Matthew!
Yes, it does take the "edge off", so to speak.
It works especially well with more (socially) refined folks, since less (socially) refined folks might have missed the bragging / power move.
THE DISADVANTAGES OF BRAGGING
The bad thing of bragging is that it's often often annoying to people and can make you lose quite some value/social capital.
Bragging says "I want you to like me and respect me" and/or "I want to gain status and power in this group, and I'm not afraid of being blatant in my efforts".
It's also a red flag of narcissism as it's all about "look at me (how good I am)", and that often indirectly says "I'm better than you", which is a form of social climbing and pushing others down.
That's why many people resent bragging.
THE ADVANTAGE OF CALLING IT OUT YOURSELF
Once you call your own bragging, you turn a bragging into something more humorous and cheeky.
A bit as if to say "yeah, yeah, I know, I'm bragging now, but I'm not being nasty about it, please bear with me for this one".
It also suggests that since you get "it's just this one time", and it's not like you're going to brag and show off for the whole evening or the whole time you will interact with each other.
Finally, it also gives you social points in terms of refinement and effectiveness, as it shows that you "get it".
P.S.:
The main reason why I'm putting up more pictures recently -and why I'm gonna put out more- is to crowd out from Google a few old pictures that I removed and that were very low quality, but that keep showing up.
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I think this can be listed as a technique.
Are you OK Matthew if we change the title from a question to a statement, and move it to the "techniques"?
We can also think of a name for it.
Maybe:
- Brag declaration
- Brag admission
- ... ?
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Sounds good to change from a question to a statement and to move this to techniques.
Thanks for elaborating more about the dynamics behind bragging.
I think understanding the nuances of bragging may not be so obvious.
Brag declaration seems like a good name to me.
Another Cheeky Example
Someone wrote this on his bio on his website:
CAUTION: entering dangerous bragging zone
It's actually a renowned expert in a particular tech sector.
He's at the top of his field, and everyone acknowledges that.
So it definitely comes across as cheeky.
Maybe someone can guess who he is :).
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 22, 2021, 6:00 pmI think this can be listed as a technique.
Are you OK Matthew if we change the title from a question to a statement, and move it to the "techniques"?
We can also think of a name for it.
Maybe:
- Brag declaration
- Brag admission
- ... ?
Great technique. Very efficient and humorous. Seems like a humblebrag: "yes yes I am bragging but don't take it serious, I am not socially climbing up"