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False giving power move: power move back

An interesting cold reach out I got.

At the end of the email, she says:

I respect your inbox, so unless you reply to this email and want to know more, I’m not planning to send you another email for at least the next 8 weeks or more. But, if you never want to hear from me again, you can reply to this email saying “no further contact please” and I’ll take note.

An interesting approach.

And overall, nothing big, but still, the power dynamics weren't correct.

So basically, you reach out without permission, you "nicely grant me an 8-weeks pause", but if I don't want your cold reach outs, then I need to take action (and you'll be so kind to listen to me?)?

That's false giving there.

Their offer was unexpectedly potentially golden though, so I did reply.

But first I enforce that tasking boundary in that hypothetical scenario:

If I didn't want to hear from you, I'd mark it as spam :).

Subcommunication: If I wasn't interested I wouldn't have followed your lead in any case and was never going to give you the time of the day.

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