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Winning the frame with a woman who labels me a kid
So there is this older woman who i know for a fact is attracted to me, and tests me by labelling me a kid.
what frame should i hold when she labels me that?
Yeah, she is babying you.
I would first find a label that bothers her, then tell her to stop and ask her "how if I called you X"?
And then you would add:
But I'm not interested in calling you X because I'm not interested in these little games.
With that one, you are labeling her behavior as "playing games". It shames her and you look superior. That will make it more likely that you can establish your more collaborative frame of "adult to adult relationship".
If you have sex with her, then you can go back to teasing each other for fun.
But good teasing is never about hitting buttons that deeply bother people. So if the baby thing really bothers you, you should make it your line in the sand that she is not allowed to cross.
