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Give Matthew Feedback Anytime

I'm starting this thread so that it's easy for people to give me feedback anytime.
It doesn't have to be a specific situation or incidence.
Whenever something comes to mind.

Feedback of any length is welcome.
A few words, 1-2 sentences, 10 pages.

This will help me make the best quizzes on power dynamics for this community.
It will put me in a better position to contribute to this forum as well.

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Hi Matthew,

I noticed some of your activity in the quizzes thread. And, I think there's a way to add images to any Google Forms question that you make.

So, if you ever have an idea for an exchange, let me know because we can actually create that exchange by emailing each other. And, that way, you can use screenshots of our custom-made exchanges to add to any quiz you want.

It's only a rough idea, but I'm happy to do it if you think it would help.

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Hi Ali,

Thanks a lot for the offer and the advice!
Google Forms questions can indeed add pictures.

Real case studies.
That'll be awesome man.

I haven't thought exactly what to do as well.

I'm looking for feedback on my phone conversations too if anyone has the time to give feedback.
Only if convenient :-).

On my latest phone call with Lucio, I think I tend to

  • Get sidetracked by small points
  • Need to organise my speech better
  • Not sure how to end conversations
    • Or trying to end the conversation but end up talking about another point

In the past, what I find to work well:

  • Introducing the main points at the start of the call
  • Prepare a few points on paper or sheet
  • Naturally being prepared helps to end the conversation too instead of thinking what to say next
Quote from Matthew Whitewood on August 10, 2021, 6:51 pm

I'm looking for feedback on my phone conversations too if anyone has the time to give feedback.
Only if convenient :-).

On my latest phone call with Lucio, I think I tend to

  • Get sidetracked by small points
  • Need to organise my speech better
  • Not sure how to end conversations
    • Or trying to end the conversation but end up talking about another point

In the past, what I find to work well:

  • Introducing the main points at the start of the call
  • Prepare a few points on paper or sheet
  • Naturally being prepared helps to end the conversation too instead of thinking what to say next
  • Ending conversation

All good, didn't feel it was any major issue.

It might be a bigger issue when both are unsure how to end it. But as long as you're talking to someone who's cool with making the first move, it's usually not an issue.
But otherwise definitely a skill to develop: you don't want to depend on someone else.

  • Voice

You've taken huge steps forward.

  • Get sidetracked by smaller point

Just a couple of times.

  • Need to organize my speech better

We were both guilty of it.
But there are different types of calls. Free-thinking ones get less done, but generate more random threads that can lead to some potentially new cool ideas -as it was the case-.
As long as there are also more organized calls -also to show one has the skills and attitude for that-, then it's OK to have some disorganized ones in my opinion.

And if you have any feedback for me, I'm all ears.

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Have you read the forum guidelines for effective communication already?

I see what you mean.
I think this is the case where I deviate from the "normal" business phone call.
And it feels weird.

Hmm now I think that sometimes I see myself differently from how other people see me.
More times than I think.

Syllabus-Timed Rhythm VS Stress-Timed Rhythm

I think your rhythm follows in the middle of a syllabus-timed rhythm and stress-timed rhythm.
Italian is a syllabus-time language.
English is a stressed-time language.

I speak English since young but my colloquial accent is syllabus-timed.

Video Voice Vs Conversational Voice

Your voice on the phone is also different from that in the videos.
I think in the videos, you stress too many words (lots of downward inflection).

My Personal Focus Over Past Few Months

Things I have changed over the past few months are

  • Practising the primary stress on words
  • Moving from syllabus-timed to stress-timed
  • Incorporating intonation into speech
  • Thought groups
    • Slightly higher pitch when there's more to say
    • Stressing the right word in the group
  • Breathing
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