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High-quality mindsets

Hello guys,

Lucio introduced to me the identity of the “high-quality man/woman”. I was a bit resistant at first and now I think it’s an important concept.

There are already a few posts about being high-quality. However I think it deserves a post in the mindset forum.

Mindset

I deserve better than this 

Analysis

This came from new when I learned pick-up. The idea was: I deserve the most beautiful women. Then on my journey I realized I did not because  I was not myself a great mate. But now I think I am.

I think it because of all the work I did on myself and my achievements. So now I do think that I deserve the best. I don’t want a yacht or a helicopter but I deserve the best friends, colleagues, work environment, work opportunities, health. You see where I’m going with this.

I do understand that in the Western world because of all the material abundance I’m still a small fish. But the value I rate myself is high.

It’s high because I see that I’m one of the very few to put such effort to improve daily. It’s not because I’m better than anybody. I’m not. I’m mortal, I shit and piss like everybody. I’m a duck sometimes, I have my share of flaws and make mistakes on a daily basis.

What I value myself for is my sincere and continuous effort to improve over the past 20 years.

This is what gives me this mindset. It’s not an entitlement mindset (which I used to have based on bad external influences) but a deservedness mindset.

It goes back to what Lucio was saying about being a smart collaborator: you contribute AND you ask for fair rewards.

That is what I’m talking about.

This is what helped me to have the courage to put value-takers in the “dustbin of my life” as Lucio says. I also kept close family members who are value takers at arms’ length”.

It’s the idea that I deserve happiness.

And you prove to yourself through your actions that it is true indeed: you treat yourself and others well. You do your best to improve. These are the people who deserve the best in Life. Because they give their best.

Cheers!

 

 

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Thanks for sharing your story man.

This is what gives me this mindset. It’s not an entitlement mindset (which I used to have based on bad external influences) but a deservedness mindset.

It goes back to what Lucio was saying about being a smart collaborator: you contribute AND you ask for fair rewards.

I believe strongly as well that the world would be a better place if everyone puts on the smart collaborator hat.
It is a key concept on this website.
And putting value-takers in the dustbin is part of that process.

It’s high because I see that I’m one of the very few to put such effort to improve daily.

I found it enjoyable to discuss the growth mindset with you, Ali and Lucio.
You shared interesting videos from Tom Bilyeu.
We all learnt a lot through these discussions.

It’s the idea that I deserve happiness.

This sounds like a good mindset towards going for therapy.
And many other aspects of life.

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