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How to best escalate sexually

#1 · February 24, 2020, 7:43 am

Being quite inexperienced I find it a little bit hard to sexualize a conversation/ escalate sexually especially in real life. I often find myself stuck in a platonic interaction with prospects. Should I try making it easier by establishing a sexual frame over text leading to a date? And as a rule of thumb how/when to best escalate sexually face to face?

#2 · February 24, 2020, 3:51 pm

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on February 24, 2020, 3:51 pm
Quote from Guest on February 24, 2020, 7:43 am
(...) especially in real life (...)
Where else do you escalate sexually, mate? :D
Jokes aside, I see two ways you can go:
Force yourself to go full-on escalation and learn each time from the reactions as you get more comfortable: as soon as you come home, you force yourself to make your move within 5 minutes and take it from there
Build your comfort with baby steps: the first couple of girls you talk more, then you give yourself 5 minutes to smell their perfume, then
I can't recommend the first one because I don't know your general social calibration. Uncalibrated men would scare away a ton of girls before learning anything.
But if you already have good emotional intuition, then I'd recommend it.
Baby steps instead is more sitting next to her, then holding her hand, then leaning to smell her perfurme, then kissing her neck, then kissing her, then making out, then finally taking her to bed.
You don't need to go the full way with each single girl, the idea is to build your own comfort over time. For some girls, you might move too slow like that, but that's OK. For some others, the pace will be just right. You're not doing for the girls at this stage anyway, you're doing it for yourself.
Some ideas to sexualize the conversation:
Ask which actor she thinks are sex, then share yours and why
Ask her about the last time she went partying, then tell her she was there to meet sexy boys. When she says "ahaha no I was just dancing", simply reply "sure you were", then move on
When you get up to go to the bathroom, tell her "not to look at your ass please"
Make some jokes she's trying to seduce you, or pick you up
Tell some stories of some gay guys or ladyboys who tried to pick you up -I hate lying, but if you don't have any of those stories, up to you if you wanna use some fantasy-
Put some artistic female nudes in your room -look at my YB videos for an example of a picture that is obviously sexual, yet in a more artistic way, so you can also tell a story about that showcase your depth-
These are all simple things that as you get better you won't even need to do. But as a beginner, they can help you to sexualize the interaction.
As a rule of thumb, I recommend that it's best to escalate physically when you are ready to take her to bed. Kissing done well can make her horny and increase the odds you'll get together, but it's easier to do it wrong than to do it right, so keep it simple and only escalate when you're isolated.
Put no pressure on you: if it doesn't go well, you learned something and that's great.

Quote from Guest on February 24, 2020, 7:43 am
(...) especially in real life (...)

Where else do you escalate sexually, mate? :D

Jokes aside, I see two ways you can go:

Force yourself to go full-on escalation and learn each time from the reactions as you get more comfortable: as soon as you come home, you force yourself to make your move within 5 minutes and take it from there
Build your comfort with baby steps: the first couple of girls you talk more, then you give yourself 5 minutes to smell their perfume, then

I can't recommend the first one because I don't know your general social calibration. Uncalibrated men would scare away a ton of girls before learning anything.
But if you already have good emotional intuition, then I'd recommend it.

Baby steps instead is more sitting next to her, then holding her hand, then leaning to smell her perfurme, then kissing her neck, then kissing her, then making out, then finally taking her to bed.
You don't need to go the full way with each single girl, the idea is to build your own comfort over time. For some girls, you might move too slow like that, but that's OK. For some others, the pace will be just right. You're not doing for the girls at this stage anyway, you're doing it for yourself.

Some ideas to sexualize the conversation:

Ask which actor she thinks are sex, then share yours and why
Ask her about the last time she went partying, then tell her she was there to meet sexy boys. When she says "ahaha no I was just dancing", simply reply "sure you were", then move on
When you get up to go to the bathroom, tell her "not to look at your ass please"
Make some jokes she's trying to seduce you, or pick you up
Tell some stories of some gay guys or ladyboys who tried to pick you up -I hate lying, but if you don't have any of those stories, up to you if you wanna use some fantasy-
Put some artistic female nudes in your room -look at my YB videos for an example of a picture that is obviously sexual, yet in a more artistic way, so you can also tell a story about that showcase your depth-

These are all simple things that as you get better you won't even need to do. But as a beginner, they can help you to sexualize the interaction.

As a rule of thumb, I recommend that it's best to escalate physically when you are ready to take her to bed. Kissing done well can make her horny and increase the odds you'll get together, but it's easier to do it wrong than to do it right, so keep it simple and only escalate when you're isolated.

Put no pressure on you: if it doesn't go well, you learned something and that's great.

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