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How to self-deprecate without losing status
Hello everyone,
I think the way to self-deprecate without losing status (fake humility) is the following:
I'm not a forensics specialist and my IQ is very low regarding that but I've been working 20 years as a police officer.
The "but" nullifies everything that comes before. So you can make yourself humble through this technique for people to lower people's defences and prevent them from being defensive.
Hello everyone,
I think the way to self-deprecate without losing status (fake humility) is the following:
I'm not a forensics specialist and my IQ is very low regarding that but I've been working 20 years as a police officer.
The "but" nullifies everything that comes before. So you can make yourself humble through this technique for people to lower people's defences and prevent them from being defensive.
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Lucio Buffalmanoleaderoffun
Yeah, I think that's a good technique, John.
I wouldn't call that "fake humility" though. More like sharing the negatives while also knowing how to strategically move toward focusing on the positive. (I don't see the "but" as a sign of fakeness or inauthenticity, more like a sign of social awareness and good social skills.)
Yeah, I think that's a good technique, John.
I wouldn't call that "fake humility" though. More like sharing the negatives while also knowing how to strategically move toward focusing on the positive. (I don't see the "but" as a sign of fakeness or inauthenticity, more like a sign of social awareness and good social skills.)
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Lucio BuffalmanoJohn Freeman
I agree with your comment.
I love the word "but" as it can act as softener.
Like: "I don't know you a lot but I think you're a great person" to someone you don't know a lot. It works wonders as otherwise: "I think you're a great person" would have raised defences and cautiousness. The personcan accept the compliment in the first instance.
I agree with your comment.
I love the word "but" as it can act as softener.
Like: "I don't know you a lot but I think you're a great person" to someone you don't know a lot. It works wonders as otherwise: "I think you're a great person" would have raised defences and cautiousness. The personcan accept the compliment in the first instance.
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