How to spot a feminist early on (and avoid her)
Quote from Bel on February 6, 2022, 1:33 amI think your newsletter message was balanced, and the reaction of the person you mention is obviously a wrong overreaction.
This bit of the newsletter sticks out to me as something a bit provocative: “find yourself a nice feminist :)”. Unless that’s the effect you wanted, that could be maybe omitted without changing the message, with the effect of making it even more balanced.
Right, fair point, thank you for the feedback Bel, I agree with it.
Those parts were more provocative in that sense and felt like poking fun (a nasty power move) at the whole category, not making any single exception.
I don't think my test applies to such an extreme level of misandry though. The acts described (drugging men rob them) are horrible and extreme, yes. And anyone who jumped behind them in 100% support, would be extreme as well.
...However, my test is not to find those who are 100% in support; just ~50% in support... which in my opinion is a huge enough red flag. For example, maybe the woman does think it's ultimately wrong, but also ultimately expresses more compassion for the drugger than her victims. ~"Oh I wonder what she must have been through to make her do that. Poor her. She was just doing what she had to, to get by, in this world that is so cruel to women (etc)." ...Watch out... this girl also thinks it's excusable for her to do this to innocent men, given the "right" circumstances.
The fact that Cardi did brag about this on video... never apologized afterward... and never got much flak for it (she DID get SOME, thank goodness)... and plenty publicly expressing ~50% support... does show me that there is a decent amount of people out there who are at ~50%.
2-min succinct clip, which also includes two people NOT supporting her 🙂 in case you are not aware of the basics of this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9q7haE3tKNM
Thank you bro. Appreciate your compassion and insights. Well-said, especially on the last lines there... "When you meet those people, just avoid them and move on.
Because, luckily, and it's never too late to remind ourselves: there are plenty of awesome people in this world.
Quote from TJ on March 24, 2022, 9:44 pm...However, my test is not to find those who are 100% in support; just ~50% in support... which in my opinion is a huge enough red flag. For example, maybe the woman does think it's ultimately wrong, but also ultimately expresses more compassion for the drugger than her victims. ~"Oh I wonder what she must have been through to make her do that. Poor her. She was just doing what she had to, to get by, in this world that is so cruel to women (etc)." ...Watch out... this girl also thinks it's excusable for her to do this to innocent men, given the "right" circumstances.
Yes, great point.
You don't need someone to rally behind something, something simply not condemning, or finding some excuses here in there can tell you a lot about where they truly stand.