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Is there any material in power university/the entire website about settling down?
I mean about the decision of 'this girl is a keeper' in a way that avoid oneitis. Most people here (if dating) are likely dating multiple girls and settling for one has a big cost. Plus your dating skills could atrophy if you don't use them for a while :)
Great question.
Not yet in a direct and stated approach.
However, I feel that most of the learning here still provides the foundations to do that.
By understanding the game(s) and by differentiating between "fair" games and value-taking, manipulative ones, then one also understands what's a poor and, by contrast, a good partner.
The relationship module also includes corrective actions to many games, and eventually suggests that if one individual can't be corrected, then it might be discarded in favor of a better one.
Your dating skills definitely do atrophy if you don't use them for a long time... take it from a guy who went from player, to long-term relationship and then found himself single and dating-incompetent again! Thankfully I'm making real tangible progress, but it is very much like having to relearn dating from scratch...
That said, I'd be cautious about the 'oneitis' concept... life is all about priorities and tradeoffs... committing to a relationship also opens the door to deeper trajectories of personal growth that just aren't possible if all you do is work through endless short-term flings...
I know that doesn't answer you question, of course, but I'm interested to hear others' reflections and what materials might be available in PU too... ;)
