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Lover development/action plan
Hello Lucio,
as you know, I'm going for a lover role-first with short-term mating strategy for the moment. This means I have to improve my lover qualities as you wrote in the course. I understand that it is about maximizing looks and game, based on your articles. I also understand I have to prioritize the development of my external layers.
Looks
- I do workout once a day, with an objective to drop my body fat percentage by 5-10% until the end of the year: in progress.
- I adopted your "display resources/conspicuous spending" strategy by going from developing an "edgy/bad boy wardrobe" to a "smart-casual-(sexy)" wardrobe: in progress.
Game
- I am regaining my sexual confidence I lost through toxic relationships by going on dates and gaining new momentum: in progress.
What would such a plan would look like according to you? What would you prioritize?
Thanks a lot for your guidance!
Hey John,
Yeah, the bad boy image wasn't necessarily wrong.
It's definitely an attractive niche if done well -we go back to the basics here: it's not so much the niche you occupy, but about how you occupy it. There are plenty of "bad boys" who have never slept with a woman-.
However, in your case, with your job, it might feel somewhat odd to don a leather jacket, cigarette on your ear, black untied boots, and ripped jeans, and forearm tattoos.
So yeah, I think that sexy smart-casual might be better for you.
Also, the bad boy style mostly gain points against plain men, but not so much against high-powered and confident sexy smart men.
Approaching
What you're doing is on point, but of course, you already know that it's the preparation of the work that you need to put in to meet more women.
In your case, living in a somewhat parochial environment and having to care about your reputation, I'd limit the street game done with the high-energy PUA style, such as running after girls.
But you can definitely do more understated street approaches, like walking beside her and opening with a compliment, as if you were being social.
Or sitting next to her on a bench.
All these things that seem "natural".
And I'd do more social circle game and lots more of "cold social circle", such as Meetups and events.
In your case, I'd probably make my mainstay those "cold social circles" where it's normal and expected to meet and talk to new people. If your city offers enough of them, you could do 2-3 a week, every week, and it soon starts adding up.
Great idea, thanks! That is exactly what I'm focussing on: building my social life by increasing the NUMBER of events I'm going to or organizing. To build some social abundance in my life. So this is right up my alley.
That being said, according to you what are the characteristics of skills one should focus on to become a great lover?
