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Law of Virtue Signaling: pay lip service to opposing double standards, but act according to them

The fact that women and men are judged differently is an example of the so-called "double standard".

Double standard often refers to gender, but it can be applied to races, skin colors, socio-economic background, etc.
Today it's popular, especially among liberals, to oppose anything that even remotely reeks of "double standard".

From a purely Machiavellian perspective the best approach to the double standard is this:

1. Accept the double standard as true and act accordingly to it
2. Avoid taking up arms for either side
3. If someone asks you about it, provide bland support to the complainers with something like "that's a good point", "yeah, unluckily"

This is the rationale behind them:

1. Accept the double standard as true and act accordingly to it

You need to respect double standards because most of them stem from human nature.

Even if we don't like it, they are still real.
People do hold different groups of people to different standards, no matter what they say.

Still, don't say that the double standard is here to stay.
And never look like you agree to it. So never say that a woman is unattractive for being "unfeminine" and never, ever say that submissive men are "pussies".
But keep acting as if everyone thinks that way.
Because they do.

2. Avoid taking up arms for either side

You make a few friends being an extremist, that's true.
But you alienate the majority because the majority doesn't really like extremists.
Let others make enemies, you be a social chameleon.

3. If they ask something, provide bland supportĀ 

Opposing the double standard is considered "progressive" and liberal.

People tend to associate pro-social attitudes with progressive ideals and a more "dog eat dog" attitude to more conservative and reactionary values and ideals.

So you're better off looking like you're leaning slightly more towards liberal ideas because people will trust you more.
And yes, it doesn't matter who's right here, this is only about virtue signaling.

Finally, if you are in more extremists groups, bland support usually gives you a free pass and nobody will pick on you.
People look for extremists to create ingroup/outgroup dynamics, and if you seem open to any idea you will never provide them with an easy target.

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This is what most people do anyway.

People oppose double standards because it's good for them or because it makes them look good to oppose (see "virtue signaling").

But of course, what would not be good for them is if they acted on their verbal commitment.
So, for the most part, people just conform to the double standard. Some don't consciously realize it though, which helps them keep a good image of self (cognitive dissonance theory, Leon Festinger).

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Fair enough but the fact that double standards are natural to most people doesn't mean they are right and we should accept them

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Quote from Guest on November 18, 2019, 11:23 am

Fair enough but the fact that double standards are natural to most people doesn't mean they are right and we should accept them

You're totally right.

That has a name actually, and it's called the "naturalistic fallacy", such as that because something is "natural", it doesn't mean that it's right.
It's a critic often leveled at evolutionary psychology, which simply explains things, but doesn't necessarily agree with it, or think that it's good.

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