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New flagship TPM book (2022): what would you guys like to see?

Hello everyone,

Hope your new year is off to a great start!

I've been hard at work these past few days writing the new flagship TPM book alongside Lucio.

And, since you guys are the exact types of people most likely to read a book like this (and get value from it), if you have a couple of minutes to spare, I'd like to know what you want to see in this book's content.

So, as you went through PU, what was the most valuable for you? More specifically, what sections of your favorite lessons helped you the most?

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Lucio BuffalmanoValentinMatthew WhitewoodZenDancer

Hi there @Ali,

I  was just thinking about this, and it's inspired me to go back and work through PU again... I was skimming through and realised I probably charged through it too quickly first time... Great initiative to make a book - it could well act as a catalyst to grow the PM community a hell of a lot... I'll come back and post more here as I'm going through the PU pages..

Thanks,

Lucas

 

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Lucio BuffalmanoAli ScarlettMatthew Whitewood

I would be interested in the following:

  1. How Social Exchange Affects Power Negotiations?
    Something like
    How Do You Tell Whether Concessions are Submissive, Value-Adding or Power Moves?
  2. Handling Aggression and Accusations
  3. When to use what frame control methods

Another possibility is an intermediary towards the flagship book.
Something like volumes with different themes, for example on the above points.
So you can also observe which themes have higher demand and hammer away more on those.

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Lucio BuffalmanoAli Scarlett

Thanks for your suggestions, Matthew!

I've already touched on a few of your points with:

  1. A chapter dedicated to the social exchange
  2. A chapter dedicated to covert power moves: which also shares a bit on how certain covert power moves affect the social exchange and, by extension, negotiations
  3. A chapter dedicated to assertiveness: admittedly, there's not too much on handling aggression or accusations right now, so I might expand that part soon
  4. A chapter dedicated to frame control: that shares frame control techniques and examples that give readers a good overview of when to use each one

It's a challenge to give the readers a firm understanding of the specifics on what to do in social situations without clear video examples and the visual aids that a course can provide. So, another goal might be to expand the details of the stories and examples I go into.

And, thank you for your note, Lucas, would be curious to hear your thoughts when you can get around to it.

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Lucio BuffalmanoMatthew Whitewood

Thanks a lot Ali!

  1. A chapter dedicated to assertiveness: admittedly, there's not too much on handling aggression or accusations right now, so I might expand that part soon

Admittedly, I'm not very good at handling sudden aggression and accusations upon reflecting on my year of 2021.
So this is a personal weakness.
I'm unsure if it extends to other people too.

Really looking forward to the book!

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What I have found most useful from Lucio’s videos and websites:

  1. Frame control.
  2. Dealing with rude / aggressive people.
  3. How not to come across as low power with choice of words and body language – for women.
  4. How to speak with power.

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I'll keep posting more as they come in.

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Ali Scarlett
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Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on January 8, 2022, 8:40 pm

Feedback from email:

---------------- FEEDBACK------------

What I have found most useful from Lucio’s videos and websites:

  1. Frame control.
  2. Dealing with rude / aggressive people.
  3. How not to come across as low power with choice of words and body language – for women.
  4. How to speak with power.

---------------- FEEDBACK------------

I'll keep posting more as they come in.

Awesome, just made a couple of small updates to the body language side.

The way I see it, communication (both verbal and nonverbal) could be a whole new TPM book on its own:

  1. Intro: Social Power Dynamics
  2. Chapter 1: Stereotype Content Model
  3. Chapter 2: How to Ace Introductions (The Perfect First Impression)
  4. Chapter 3: High-Power Signals and Words
  5. Chapter 4: Low-Power Signals and Words
  6. Chapter 5: High-Confidence Behavior at Work (The “Exec Skills”)
  7. Next Steps: Call-to action

That's why I'm making sure this book delivers value while also maintaining its focus. Any movement too far into any of the modules could result in this becoming an entirely different book.

That wouldn't be good for the reviews, TPM, or any of the readers who might've been expecting something different going in.

With that said, all of your feedback is very valuable because this book isn't necessarily a "marketing effort" first and a valuable resource second. It's meant to give so much impactful information and value that people are pulled into TPM.

So, knowing what you guys found the most helpful going through PU is very, very helpful.

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Lucio Buffalmano
  1. How to speak with power.

I think this can go very broad.
Because basically everything influences how powerful your speaking comes across.
Including your posture, clothes, etc.

So I suppose here, we can focus on non-verbals and tonality?

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