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Passive-aggressive conveyed facial expressions
I have come across a tactic used sometimes by some people who show expressions of 'disgust' and 'What is this this guy even talking about?' When I talk about my ideas, passions and express my opinions.
Most times the some guys do this in a group as a way of social ladder climbing.
How to handle these situations especially when a couple of these Passive-agressive folk give looks to each other?
Currently I ignore them because on one occasion when I called them out they completely denied it and put the blame on me as in "I might be considering my ideas not very good for others myself and hence I am feeling it".
How would you handle these situations?
Feel free to share your thoughts
This article sounds relevant to me:
Example of Dominant Body Language (Pictures)
If it's an idea, one could say
 Yeah, it’s a a bit of complex topic, I know.
Then, proceed to continue talking.
If it's your passion,
It takes familiarity to appreciate this field.
Other statements:
- Maybe you're not familiar
- It could be your first time hearing the ideas
If you're in a group, ignore the person making the expression and face the others while speaking.
Spot on Matthew well played Sir.
I know I drag gender into our discussions. But I am 100 percent evidence based. I wonder if we should adapt it for mainly female groups or one where there is a woman present your interested in. BRB
Happy to be convinced otherwise. In my interactions and social groups I have noticed that woman like to stay off serious and complex topics and talk about popular topics or who is doing what to whom.
I m wondering if we could adapt:
"Yeah, it’s a a bit of complex topic, I know." to:
I knew you guys would enjoy this. It was all over the today show the other day (insert whatever the well-known populist light news show is in your area).
To me 'complex' is synonymous with boring and nerdy to most women.
And yes, Matthew was perfect on the body language I would definitely turn to the rest of the group and partially turn your back on this guy.
I share the same view that it would be different for female-dominated groups too.
The topics of interest are probably about what's popular and happening.
I knew you guys would enjoy this. It was all over the today show the other day (insert whatever the well-known populist light news show is in your area).
Do you think that this may come across as looking for validation or forcing the vibe?
I haven't tried this approach personally so not very experienced.
Maybe for female-dominated groups, one could
- ignore the passive-aggressive woman,
- continue your train of sharing,
- look for the most engaged woman with reasonable status,
- ask that engaged woman a question
If all the women are uninterested, then maybe passing the mike (by asking a question or what not) or switching topics would be best.
Yes I agree. Now I read it back what I suggested could come off as try hard.
I was more trying to make the point in mixed social groups what you say and to who is as important as what
