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Questions: when are they empowering / disempowering?
Hi
Whoever is asking questions takes control of the conversation is what many people say, but I have noticed that whenever I ask questions, the power begins to take a teacher-pupil dynamic, what's the difference in mindset/ words/ intention/ situation , between asking questions that keep you in power VS questions that put you in a pupil role?
THANK YOU
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Hello Maverick,
This is quite a common question actually.
If you search the forum for "questions" and similar, this topic has come up quite a bit -and I think I have since linked from PU as well-.
Edit: here's the Google search results for "questions" on this forum.
The general theory would be quite long to explain in a forum post, and how the dynamics evolve really depends on you/him, on intonations, nonverbals and how things pan out -plus how you react and check on power moves-.
I personally think that if this happens to you, it's more about general power skills than about questions specifically (and that's something you can best address going through PU).
Share a specific example where you felt you were being disempowered and it will become a lot clearer where the issue lays.
Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on November 3, 2022, 10:33 amEdit: here's the Google search results for "questions" on this forum.
Thank you for sharing this,
Going through some of the posts on the forum, I would say
Questions that are pointed, that frames the questioner as a judge, questions that make the pother party, explain ( in certain cases), defend, justify tend to disempower the other.
No specific examples come to mind, right now unfortunately.
