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How to draw boundaries on the little things, to avoid they become big, without looking petty

From Power University Module #5 about relationship power dynamics:

"In short: accepting even low levels of nastiness and aggression means opening the door to constant nastiness and aggression and, potentially, to ever-deteriorating vicious circles of abuse."

I could not agree more.
Here's my challenge with this: In the heat of the moment, I often hesitate to push back on low levels of nastiness/aggression because I'm worried that I will come across as being "a petty sensitive baby who is bothered by every little thing."

Certainly, I have been accused of such things -- and I'm sure there have been a few cases where that has been the case.  But I do believe there have been many more times where she knows I am right to not accept even the lowest levels of nastiness and aggression but still says "you're so sensitive  . . . " to try to divert attention from the matter at hand.

Your input please.

 

 

I do believe that I posted this on the wrong part of the Forum.  I apologize.

 

Quote from EdnBr on June 24, 2020, 9:05 am

and I'm sure there have been a few cases where that has been the case.  But I do believe there have been many more times where she knows I am right to not accept even the lowest levels of nastiness and aggression but still says "you're so sensitive  . . . " to try to divert attention from the matter at hand.

Ed,

Gives us concrete examples.

Without examples, all I can tell you is "it's possible that you did were too sensitive, and it's also possible that you were right to intervene".

Give us one or two examples of a situation in which you drew boundaries on what you thought was abusive or nasty, and we can give you feedback.

Have you read the forum guidelines for effective communication already?
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