Powerful mindset: foundations
Here are my 3 new mindsets:
All I have is Now
This is useful for me because procrastination and time wasting has been a problem for all my life. However, just like I solved my life-long problem with sleep habits, I'm confident I can solve this one as well.
Trigger an adaptation response
This one comes from Tom Bilyeu. The concept is that it's only when we push hard enough on a given thing (your body in working out, your mind at work), that our body will produce an adaptation response. If we shy out of it and don't push hard enough, it will not force the body (the brain included) to produce the desired change.
I'm a maximalist
Just like the average human, I tend to want to conserve energy. So I tend to be a minimalist: to do the bare minimum for things to work out. That applies mostly to exams. I would not have accomplished what I did only by doing the bare minimum of course. However, with the new found comfort as an employee, I realised that I stopped to push myself as hard as I used to. I was overworked and afraid of burning out again. Now that I feel better I can go back to this mindset since I know how to rest now.
Hello guys and girls,
here are new mindsets that I'm using for what I call "My Transformation".
I tie my self-worth to the sincere pursuit of my goals
This blew my mind. I now understand it better at my level of self-development awareness. It comes from Tom Bilyeu. It means that instead of feeling good when you succeed or feel bad when you fail, you feel good when you PURSUE sincerely your goal. So you tie your self-esteem to the actions leading to your goals. Next level. I use it every day now.
I'm going towards the reward
I listened to a book about Self-Sabotage. An aspect of self-sabotage is the avoidance of what is momentarily uncomfortable/disagreeable (short-term) vs going through the discomfort towards the reward. I was a big time avoider of discomfort. Now I'm going towards the reward.
Stop Self-Sabotage
Self-explanatory. I use it when I see that I'm going to do a self-sabotage behaviour
I can do anything I put my mind to
This is obviously false. I cannot become an astronaut or a basketball champion. However, the beauty of this mindset lies elsewhere. It removes the excuses we make to ourselves when we think we cannot attain a goal. For instance: you're working out but you don't believe you can become muscular. How long are you going to sustain this behaviour? Not long. However if you believe that if you put your mind to becoming muscular, you can. Then you will work out.
I only control the process
This go back to focussing on the process which we control over the outcome, which we don't. Stoic mindset.
I either win or I learn
This is not for self-soothing. It is about framing failure as a learning opportunity, which it is. It is about asking: "why did I fail?" and reflecting on it and finding solutions, rather than feeling bad about oneself.
I can deal with it
This is the self-belief and self-confidence to deal with new and/or unknown situations. With the self-belief we can become solution-oriented.
The Work is the shortcut
There is no shortcut to our goals. There is only work. Of course working smart and strategising is part of it. However, either you are a great basketball player or you're not. No amount of marketing or spinning will change a fact. Results speak for themselves. Performance is its own answer ("Boos do not block dunks" - Kobe Bryant)
I value myself for admitting when I’m wrong
This is part of the learner mindset. If you feel good when you admit that you're wrong instead of ego-protecting, you will learn faster as this will be a self-reinforcing behaviour. You want to loop around learning. And to learn you must know what you don't know. So when you encounter something you don't know or made a bad decisions and refuse to admit you're wrong for fear of feeling bad/inferior, you prevent yourself from learning.
Cool stuff, John.
Have you thought about finding a way to put this one in the positive (ie., "do (more) X", rather than "stop X")
Quote from John Freeman on July 10, 2022, 8:47 pmStop Self-Sabotage
Self-explanatory. I use it when I see that I'm going to do a self-sabotage behaviour
I'm glad you like it. I thought nobody was reading this thread, haha.
Anyway, I looked for the positive (opposite of self-sabotage) but I did not find anything satisfactory. There is "I do my best"
However, I think this formulation is appropriate as self-sabotage is the behavior and it's a behavior that we want to stop/prevent.
So it works as it is interrupting a pattern. I understand what you mean. I'm open if someone has a proposition.
Another one from Lucio that helped me when I was studying
Preparation is the best power move (or something like that could not find it via the search)
That is about Personal Power vs Social Power. The more personal power you have (preparation), the easier it will get to have social power. Also preparation you can control it.
Yeah, it's one of those foundations that it's always good reminding.
That preparation and hard work without people skills / power awareness to make the most out of it can easily lead to being used and short-changed (sucker's trade).
And power awareness and political skills without preparation and hard work will always rest on shakier foundations.
It's two faces of the same coin, everything works better when you take care of both.
2 new mindsets:
Do as many tasks as possible as fast as possible
This one comes from Lucio. I love it. What is great about it is that it exemplifies what is efficiency/efficacy. It helps us to think about how to be efficient and effective.
It's more helpful to think: "I must do as many tasks as possible as fast as possible" rather than "I must be efficient/effective"
That is why I also pick people's brain with good time management skills. It's totally different to think: "I use my time effectively" than [insert mindset I have not yet found]
If they can do it I can do it
This helps to remove limiting belief when we see someone more accomplished than us. They're not more talented than us they just worked more than us. If we don't believe we can do it, we won't put in the work.