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Reality check - friends NEVER reach out first
I was just reflecting on my social network, and realized that at least 80% of my friends haven't reached out to me in the past year. For some of them in the past it was always me reaching out/organizing/inviting in a streak (at least 3-5 times for me with them not reaching out at all). This past week has been a bit tough since I tried to reach out to a couple of them and they just said they are busy.
I feel this kind of pattern signals a power imbalance. Like these people never reach out even with a message. I understand that they might be busy, but I am busy too. They could have said "Hi" and explain their situation if I ever crossed their minds. Does that mean that I just should let them fade from my life?
I feel also because those people have no regular thing going on with me - that might help but I don't feel like organizing a regular thing just to keep them going. I might need to find other existing social/hobby group to expand my circle.
