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Reducing preframing and stereotyping during cold approach?
I was reading https://thepowermoves.com/courses/seduction-university/lessons/how-to-meet-partners/topic/cold-approach/ and I was thinking about my approaches.
I am getting the feeling that it's important to create the approach and attitude in such a manner that I would seem as different as possible from people who approach the woman for other reasons, like people who try to sell on the street, beggers, people who ask for services and people who seem a risk, not because of race or ethnicity, but because of social strata or similar.
There are two things that go wrong: seeming dangerous or seeming meek and lower in power than her. I don't know if these are explained in detail later in the course, but I'd like some advice about how to avoid them. As an idea, I wear casual clothes, jeans, t-shirts, that are casual towards elegant, like polo shirts or certain shoewear that look stylish. I am not going to wear suits or similar.
If there are a lot of street vendors, hustlers and donation solicitor than yes, it may impact somehow.
Otherwise, I wouldn't give it a very high priority.
I'd focus on dressing well and standing out -without overdoing it- far more than being "different" than the various sellers and hustlers.
And if you're approaching in areas with lots of beggers, I'd consider moving somewhere.
In EU a lot of folks go to major underground stations (sometimes doubling down to train station sas well).
It's never a bad idea to go where there are a lot of women, but I'm not a big fan of that becuase in EU that's also where a lot of beggers and various degrees of wierdos / low-status / alcoholic people hang out.
Speaking with some of these guys I also got the sense that they ended up with the women who were the most risk-takers, rather than more reserved (ie.: one guy had a beef with another gamer since they randomly slept with the same girl they were both "kind of" dating. What were the odds? Simple, they approached a lot in the same central station, and ended up with the type of woman who's more likely to pursue sexual opportunities from total strangers. After years of gaming, that guy was still looking for a good relationship, and he was super ballsy, and not even bad looking :S).
Interesting, thanks!
It's funny how they ended going out with the same woman.
Yeah, quite a coincidence, but don't think it was pure coincidence.
Unless one learns how to make the approach seem "natural" and how to build some genuine trust and rapport, you're bound to end up with more "risk-taking" women, as well as potentially more promiscuous women.
That's one of the reasons why SU stresses the importance of making it as natural as possible, and to take care of warmth and not just power.
