Quote from Transitioned on July 17, 2022, 8:13 pm

I was around at a close friend's last night helping shift furniture round at there new place.  They have this other friend who is a bully.  Loves to put people down loudly and publicly (frame shocking) including his own children and wife so he s never going to change and pulling him aside for a talk wouldn't work.

Unfortunately I made a mistake which minorly damaged a wall.  I immediately said sorry owned it and said what I d do to fix it.  This POS when talking on the phone loudly said 'he tried to blame it on how we stacked things' which was a lie.

Thanks to TPM what I wanted to say was:

Don't tell lies about people Rob.  That s weak behaviour.  Don't do it.

Or I could have used one of our defaults.  Why would you say that.  It isn't funny and sounded mean, etc.

But I didn't because it would have made a scene.  They have a young baby.  Hubby has been seriously sick it was late and they were frazzled.  So my first question is should you ever hold back frome responding to attacks?

This is the same guy who accused me of boasting publicly at my friend's (Chris) birthday party.  Rob is not all bad, he is very loyal and helpful to them.

The bigger question is how to neutralise this prick without damaging my friendship with Chris