Quote from sillygoose9845 on June 26, 2023, 10:47 am

Musings/introduction 

Hello all I am silly goose and I am here to talk about my life introspections and musings this will have a tilt towards social dynamics I think but largely I want this to be a productivity journal. I will try and segment my post into social dyanamics, productivity and musings I think their are 4 things that constitute a good life health, wealth relationships and efficiency and my goal is to make the most of my life while it last. Alongside the influence perspective framing In life has on the ability to influence ones life  I am currently 19 upgrading highschool courses to hopefully get into a good university program I would really love to talk about powerdynamics with all of you.

Power dynamics/Evaluation of personal social skills

Something I dealt with when delving into powerdynamics last year is feeling kinda numb in relationships to the fact that I was over analyzing everything in relationships like last year had a massive emotional break down in front of a person then subsequently got drunk 2 days later and questioned everything I was doing because I was thinking about emotional venerability, romatic framing/music and keeping a paper trail to cement feelings and the drunkenness being a potential show of emotional venerability while what happened was I think an authentic show of emotion? I haven't done a good job at spaced retrieval of the information in the power moves so my knowledge has decayed quite a bit alongside me having to actively think to read into covert insults/maintain power balance (S.E.T) and as a whole control the frame of a conversation. I think by far the thing I struggle with the most in social dynamics comes down to my totality of voice/speed alongside my body language being very rigid/jumpy at times also I fall massive victem to the too deep trap alongside over questioning as a biproduct of reading How to win friends and influence people at 13-14 also I don't really think when I talk to people I just talk to them with no thought. Which does mean I am really confident I frequently talk to new people on transit or other places and where ever I go in the city I see someone I know. Also my ability to multi-thread conversations are really bad because I don't think and I really struggle to maintain a light-hearted/joking frame with other people unless I've had alcohol in system. I also have no idea how to maintain a conversation through text or "snap". I used to have some really bad habits that surface when I don't think which is self framing as a victem, stone walling emotionally detaching in arguements ect last year I read into social dynamics to the point of becoming mildly numb it was very empowering though. Something I think is a really good line to use on women at night clubs if your a young adult is "hey I think I might know you from highschool" because it lowers their barrairs/changes the rejection window because for the most part if your able to maintain the flow of the conversation it will go really well instead of just calling someone attractive which frames yourself as someone trying to pursue off of looks. I think of it along the line as a pseudo warm approach it has most of the benefits of a warm approach but also the applicability of a cold one.