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Smiling (question / technique for men)
I've noticed that every time I see a woman on Facebook who I would love to be with showing off her new boyfriend (not me), the guy invariably has a fantastic smile.
I don't have that smile. Â Can anyone please point me towards a resource/video etc to teach me how to learn the smile that women want to see on a man's face?
I am not a sad or angry person. Â But smiling doesn't come naturally to me. Â Between the ages of 2 - 18 I attended an intense prep school where if anyone "caught" you smiling, they'd find a way to change that in a hurry. Â The sentiment was that if you're smiling, you look like an out of touch imbecile who has no clue about reality. Â And I do believe that there are "stupid smiles" and "smart smiles," but I can't picture/describe what they look like.
Women describe me as "serious" even though I love to relax and have fun.
Any tips on how I can improve in these areas would be most appreciated.
(Note: I trust this post does not violate the very good rule about "proven strategies, no conjecture" because I am posing a question.)
Pick some pictures on the web and show us these beaming smiles that you feel are so attractive to women.
I am having trouble inserting images here despite my best efforts. I don't think images are essential for this question. Â I think there's a consensus on what a sexy smile looks like. Â To clarify my question, I'm asking about how I can smile more often and in a more attractive way. Â It's certainly true that one needs a model to emulate. Â But if that was what I needed I'd just go to google images and be done with it . ..
Ed,
You don't need images because you know what you're talking about.
Of course you do.
But I don't.
Or at least, I'm not sure.
And more people reading this thread might also not be sure.
So both to understand more what you're talking about and for personal learning goals, I'd like to see these smiles.
Why do I always push so much for concrete examples, you might wonder?
Because I can tell you this: much of what I learned, I learned about being overly curious and asking what people thought were stupid, unneded, or too specific questions.
A girl tells me she loved her ex-boyfriend even if he was chubby? I'm asking for pictures. Because I wanna see how really chubby he was. That's one of the ways I learned about exceptions to the standards of attractiveness.
A guy tells me the boss is an asshole? How is he an asshole? When was he an asshole? What did he say?
That's how I learned, and that's how I built ThePowerMoves: with concrete examples.
Because that's how people learn the best.
On smiling more, I wouldn't necessarily recommend to just smile more, because smiling is one of those "threshold qualities". Meaning, it's attractive up to a certain point. And yes, chances are you might be smiling too little now.
But after a certain point too much smiling becomes too much and unattractive (plus, at the wrong time, they can be a sign of submissiveness, or give away power).
As an extreme example, here is a guy who is trying to smile too much:
P.S.: technically speaking, you don't need to embed the full image, you can just copy-paste the URL of one of them.
I am one of these guys who does not smile a lot as I hate smiling just because everyone else is smiling it just does not feel natural.
Women sometimes say to me they can never know whether I am joking or being serious sometimes not sure whether thats a good thing or bad thing but they continue to talk to me.
