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Some People Seem to Prefer Keeping Things Open Than Committing to Things in Advance

I realised some people prefer to keep things open rather than committing to things in advance.
For example, some people don't like to schedule a meeting for 2 weeks from now.
I was thinking that scheduling things in advance makes it easier to plan & organise schedules.
But they much rather schedule the meeting one day from now.

I'm thinking that it could be several possibilities:

  1. Don't feel that this is important enough for a commitment
    They have not bought into the importance of committing to this.
    I should do more convincing and persuasion.
    Get more buy-in.
    I realise value may not be the most important because people may recognise value but not be invested in something.
  2. Lack of commitment to the larger objective
    In the larger context, this small commitment is about a lack of commitment to the larger objective.
    They have not bought into the importance of working together for this larger objective.
    As such, they would like to prioritise scheduling other priorities and keep this open as a backup.
  3. Lack of Emotional Relevancy
    I realised a few people feel that 2 weeks from now is not relevant to them.
    At least that is my feeling.

The strange thing is that I realised some people have no plans 2 weeks from now but would not like to schedule a meeting at that time.


The funny thing is that the "organized" people think it's a question of quality, and albeit there might a correlation, it isn't very strong.

I also wouldn't be too quick in jumping the gun on "lack of committment".
Sometimes it has a lot to do with freedom-loving.

Me, for example, forget that I'll book anything for which I need to wake up with an alarm.
And generally, I don't like booking anything.

But you bet I'm very committed to advancing and improving this power dynamics discipline.

P.S.: this doesn't seem much of a power dynamics topic.
Maybe something like "psychology", OK for you if I move it to "random"?


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Matthew Whitewood
Have you read the forum guidelines for effective communication already?

I'm on the same page when it comes to how we each individually work.
Like I have some excellent asynchronous relationships with freelancers.

I'm thinking if it is a project team, it may be important to keep to certain rough milestones?
Or at least have certain dates in mind?
And the meeting dates help to give some structure.

Personally, I don't like to have things on my calendar as well.
But paradoxically, I find that putting things in my calendar helps me to find "empty gaps" in my calendar.
Not sure if I'm approaching this with the right mindset.

Quote from Lucio Buffalmano on March 7, 2021, 3:33 am

P.S.: this doesn't seem much of a power dynamics topic.
Maybe something like "psychology", OK for you if I move it to "random"?

Sure man, maybe social circles or strategies?
Social circles because different friends may have different preferences.
Strategies because it may affect how you deal with people's preferences.
Random could be good if it doesn't fall in either of those.

There seems to be some frame negotiation when it comes to organising things.
Not sure if this falls under power dynamics.