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The Power of Honesty: less (short-term) power, for more LONG-term power
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B on July 15, 2022, 10:00 pm
Re-reading your initial post in this thread and seeing now that you did write exactly about "sharing the blame" there.
I had read it but simply could not see or understand it! It took me much reflection. I was oblivious to this dynamic, just like the "acknowledge thanks and compliments" dynamic.
I think there are situations in which unconscious dynamics like these, that probably everyone knows from birth, can be unconsciously “suppressed” when one is surrounded by takers.
It’s awesome to be reminded of and “recover” things like these in one’s life.
Re-reading your initial post in this thread and seeing now that you did write exactly about "sharing the blame" there.
I had read it but simply could not see or understand it! It took me much reflection. I was oblivious to this dynamic, just like the "acknowledge thanks and compliments" dynamic.
I think there are situations in which unconscious dynamics like these, that probably everyone knows from birth, can be unconsciously “suppressed” when one is surrounded by takers.
It’s awesome to be reminded of and “recover” things like these in one’s life.
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I love this concept of "green flags". Definitely worth mentioning in a lesson! :)
I love this concept of "green flags". Definitely worth mentioning in a lesson! :)
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Yes, if you're in defensive mode, everything seems like an attack.
And if you've been attacked a lot, your default becomes defensive mode. I know, I've been there.
Yes, if you're in defensive mode, everything seems like an attack.
And if you've been attacked a lot, your default becomes defensive mode. I know, I've been there.
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A similar example:
The other day I was ordering a "piadina" and the seller said:
Her: OK, I don't have mayonnaise though
Me: that's great! I was just about to tell you "no mayonnaise"
The scalper/Machiavellian approach would have been to say:
Scalper: ohh that sucks... It's not the same without mayonnaise. Can you make a discount then?
A similar example:
The other day I was ordering a "piadina" and the seller said:
Her: OK, I don't have mayonnaise though
Me: that's great! I was just about to tell you "no mayonnaise"
The scalper/Machiavellian approach would have been to say:
Scalper: ohh that sucks... It's not the same without mayonnaise. Can you make a discount then?
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Good one. Subtle. I would not have thought about it. Thanks!
Good one. Subtle. I would not have thought about it. Thanks!
